Hi everyone! So, am I the asshole for being upset about how many times my girlfriend’s family calls her?

I (21F) and my girlfriend (also 21F) have been together for 4 years. Up until recently, we lived in separate dorms, but we’ve finally moved in together into our first apartment.

Now to the issue. Her family calls her every single day. And by "calls her" I don’t mean just one quick call. Some days it’s up to 10 calls. If she doesn’t pick up, they start calling again — her mom, her dad, and then her sisters. Sometimes her sisters even call me if she doesn’t answer. And I just can’t take it anymore.

We’ve talked about this. She told me her mom “just needs time to adjust.” But that’s not true — it’s been like this for four years.

For example, I talk to my mom maybe once a week or every other week. Sometimes I get so startled by the amount of calls that I think something bad must’ve happened — but it’s always her mom just talking about her day, what they cooked, or asking why my girlfriend isn’t coming home for a visit.

Her hometown is just an hour drive from where we live. I honestly don’t know — maybe I’m the problem? Is this normal?

It’s the same with her sisters. There were times we hadn’t seen each other for weeks, and finally went on a trip together — and her sisters would call constantly. One time, they literally called her to ask about bus schedules — something that’s easily found online. They’re 15 and 18, by the way.

Before we moved in together, we’d see each other 3–4 times a week just to spend quality time together. I asked her not to take calls from family during our time together. And it looked awful. Her mom would call 5 times in a row, then her dad would call 5 more, then her sisters.

Another issue — her mom can’t stand when we do anything together. A few weeks ago, we went to see a movie and her mom knew about it. She called multiple times during the movie. Same thing happens with trips. If her mom knows we’re planning to travel and has an idea of the dates, she’ll deliberately plan a family trip during that same time. And if my girlfriend says no — her mom gets furious.

So, AITA for not being able to tolerate all these calls?