My fiancé and I both work in property management. I’ve been in the field longer, and recently, I got a huge promotion to Property Manager. It’s not millionaire money, but it’s life-changing for us as now we can finally afford groceries without panic, take a vacation, and most importantly, we can now actually afford our wedding.

We had planned a celebration dinner on Friday to mark the promotion. I was so excited—this was a big deal for me. But that afternoon, I couldn’t get a hold of him. I came home to find him passed out drunk on the couch. When I woke him up and asked what was going on, he said, “I quit my job.”

To be fair, he quit due to a lot of stress—both from the job and some ongoing family issues that I know have been weighing heavily on him. I understood why he was struggling, and I’ve supported him through it. But the part that really upset me is that he didn’t talk to me first before making a decision that major. I’ve carried a lot of pressure in the past to protect our housing and stability, which is something you have to think about when your job includes where you live. I wish he had spoken to me before doing something that affected both of us so deeply.

Because we lived on-site at the property he worked at, quitting means we now have to move. In our industry, when you resign, you’re typically given 10 days to vacate. That means on top of starting an incredibly demanding new job, I now have to coordinate moving out, pay for deposits, hire movers, buy supplies, and foot all the bills.. because he’s unemployed and I’m now the sole income.

Meanwhile, I come home mentally drained and exhausted, and he’s mostly sleeping on the couch or watching TV. He’s now frustrated that I’m not helping much with packing, but I feel like I have nothing left to give. I told him before the promotion that I’d need his support as this is the biggest workload I’ve ever taken on. Instead, I feel like I’ve been left to carry even more.

I feel bitter and alone, and while I understand why he was struggling, I don’t understand making that kind of decision without talking to me, especially when it affects both of our lives. I also feel guilty for being so resentful, but I can’t help it.

So… AITA for being bitter and not helping more with packing because I’m drowning in everything else? I do feel guilty, but I’m so drained in every way. :(