Hi Reddit, I’m new here and hopefully this won’t be my last post, There’s a lot more with my crazy ass family lol.

I(F 39) have two kids, Makai(M17) and May(F7) with my husband (M43).

Now, me and my first(mom, dad, etc.) family have always been the type of family to invite every member to everything, if one person had a function everyone was invited. Now I personally never liked big events and gatherings and so I didn’t continue the tradition of going to everything when I moved out and married my husband. I got more selective especially when I became a mom.

Now that you’re up to speed.

A few weeks back was my daughter’s birthday, she was turning 7 and we had planned a whole party for May, it was her, her friends, and their parents and of course me, my husband, and our son(who really only went for the cake).

Two days before the party my sister called me and asked if her daughter(who’s 16 mind you) could come to the party while she went around and ran some errands. I politely told her no. I didn’t want to have anymore mouths to feed than the 20 kids + adults i and my husband had already paid for. And, between you and me, my niece had some behavioral issues that I didn’t want to deal with.

She told me that I was being selfish, how we always did stuff together and how I don’t come around anymore and threw in my face that Makai was going to be there, mind you, he’s only there because May wanted him there and he liked cake, oh, and most importantly he lived with the birthday girl and was her brother.

It became this entire argument and I eventually just hung up, then two days later the party is here.

So we’re having a good time and May is having the time of her little life, running, playing, eating funnel cake and all. Then a few hours into it, I’m sitting my friends and husband and all of a sudden my son pulls me and my husband aside to tell us something.

He tells me that his aunt(my sis) was calling his phone cursing him out, now that threw me and my husband got a loop because 1. Who is cursing at MY child? And 2. I knew what it was about. She’s a sensitive woman, but I didn’t think she’d carry an argument we had to a child, my child no less. My husband ALMOST got to the phone before I did.

So I excuse myself, get on the phone with my sister and said some choice words that you wouldn’t say to a devil. While she continued to swear up and down how it was unfair that Makai was at the party and how I favored him over my niece(which, umm, he’s my son???????).

At the end of the call she said all I had to do was invite her daughter to the birthday party, which one, that’s not what you originally wanted, you wanted me to WATCH your daughter while you ran errands, and TWO, she’s 16, why is she at this party anyway? And she mean as hell. Not to mention, Makai’s not in the face of the party, he sat down in a corner and ate some cake, sang the birthday song and gave May a present, maybe wrestled a little with the little boys in the pool but was gone back to his room before an hour went by.

I told her this and hung up.

So, party ends, May is bright eyed and bushy tailed and is opening her presents with her friends, Makai’s gone to bed, hubby’s in the shower, I get a call from my mother, now she starts laying into me about how we’re not together anymore and how I abandoned her and the family and how I did my sister and niece wrong by not inviting her to the party and how it’s always been family and it should stay family.

I don’t feel like I did her wrong, was it mean to say to her? Yes, but did she absolutely need to hear it? HELL YES.

My husband said that he sees why I’m not a family lady as much and TBFH I agree!