I (16f, let’s call me Emmy) have been close friends with Lucy (17f) and Isla (16f) for years, but lately we’ve been feeling completely drained by our friendship with Lucy. Every time she gets into a relationship or even a situationship, she ditches us like we don’t exist.

During her last relationship with this guy Sean, we barely spoke to her for months. She never called, barely texted, and whenever we managed to hang out, he would always be there too. She saw him way more than us and constantly prioritized him. We had multiple serious talks with her about wanting to spend more time together, and she always said she’d work on it—but nothing ever changed. It got to the point where we were having arguments almost every week because she kept choosing him over us. If things weren’t going well between them, then everything had to be awful for us too. Her moods would completely bring us down, and she couldn’t be happy for us when we were excited about talking to someone new because her relationship wasn’t going well.

What made it worse was that we had told her years before that we didn’t like Sean, especially after he made racist comments toward one of us. His excuse? “That’s just how my friends are.” We weren’t even friends with those people. But she dated him anyway. She stopped hanging out with us completely because she was always with him. She’d talk to him every day, call him constantly, but could never make time for even a short FaceTime with us. And even when she was with us, she’d be texting him the whole time. After they broke up, she was still obsessed with him and got hurt when he started talking to another girl, even though she was the one who ended things.

Now she’s in a situationship with a guy named Chase. She’s known him for about two months and at first she told us she had doubts because she wasn’t over her ex. But after one hangout, those doubts disappeared—though she’s clearly still obsessed with Sean. She’s even said she still finds her ex attractive, but Chase has no idea. She gave Chase head after only two months, even though she keeps saying she doesn’t want a relationship with him. It’s very obviously a rebound.

Despite that, she somehow always has time to hang out with him, but never with us. When we talk, all she talks about is him. She constantly compares him to her ex. And the most frustrating thing? She’s over the moon when he does the bare minimum, but when we accept that kind of behavior from someone, she acts like we’re being pathetic or invalid.

We’ve had countless conversations with her about all of this, but nothing ever changes. We’re tired of being backup friends—only relevant when she’s single or bored.

So… AITA for finally being done with this one-sided friendship?

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