My best friend and I have been besties for 12 years. However we have had a few blips in our friendship and every one of them started with her and a guy. For instance I had asked her to come get food with me and she asked if her mans could come and I said sure and they both sat in the back seat smooching while I drove us around. Her first boyfriend was very controlling and wouldn't let her hang out with anyone but him. Even when we did finally hang out he would ask her to bring him something he "forgot" and she would. When she was with him (which was clearly all the time) she would never text me and I was hurt. It took me ignoring her for a month for her to finally ask what was going on and we talked it out. She finally dumped him and all was good I thought we would never have a problem again. That is until boyfriend #2. She found out some heartbreaking news that he cheated and called me saying she needed me. I zipped right over and then he pulled up outside her house to "talk" she said she would be right back and then was gone for 2 hours. And I stayed like an idiot until I couldn't take it and just went home. She later texted and apologized and we moved forward. Now this current boyfriend I really really like him and he's so good to her. We went to a festival in L.A and that happened to be where he lived. I told her I was cool if she wanted to hang out with him a little while we were there since they were long distance and couldn't see each other all the time. One night she said her and her mans were going to get food and I gave her money to pick me up a plate. Then I was left waiting for 3 hours and they came back with cold food. I was crying and she asked what was wrong and I explained how I'm extra butthurt to these situations since she keeps putting me in them. We squashed it and figured to just enjoy the rest of our trip. Now this brings me back to my reason behind this post. I have told her of course I don't mind when she wants to spend exclusive time with her mans as long as she communicates to me. Just a simple as "hey he's gonna be in town so I probably won't text much" no biggie just so I know she at least thought about me and knowing her behaviors. Well this time she didn't. She didn't message me at all for 4 days. And we went from having different conversations in every social media app to nothing. So she finally texted me and I even typed "ITS ALIVE" to jokingly point out the absence. Then we went another 2 days with no communication until I initiated one. Then.. absence again. I had later found out that her man was in town for 4 days, went home, then 2 days later she went to San Diego with him. I was really hurt and upset to know that blowing me off was a perfect match with this timeline. I thought about texting her but I figured I would just let her enjoy her trip and not worry about my feelings and it'll settle when she gets back. I also was hoping she would text me when she got back since for one I didn't know when she'd be back in town and 2 to at least show me a glimpse of hope that she cares enough to text. Nope. It has been 4 weeks and today was the first time we spoke and that's only because we were both at Starbucks at the same time. I guess it hurts knowing that I am/ was not nearly as much of a priority in her life as she was mine. I just don't know how to even proceed. Of course I love her and will always have love for her I just can't feel like the only one who cares about our friendship. Am I being over the top? I feel I deserve an apology or an acknowledgment Sorry for the novel but thank you for reading