We have a 5 months old son, I'm still on maternity leave and care for the baby all day.

Husband helps around the house a little (doing dishes, laundry occasionally, cleaning occasionally). He spends some time playing with baby after work and before he heads out to work in the yard. But yardwork is his true passion.

He takes on very ambitious projects including installing his own sprinkler system, replacing all the grass, building very large garden beds etc which consume not only the majority of his free time, but also his energy and focus. It's all he talks and thinks about outside of work. If I want us to go out and do something as a family, I'll have to plead and beg and promise it won't take away too much of his yard time. He has taken zero initiative to plan any activity for us as a family outside of the house since baby was born.

I feel so incredibly lonely being the lowest priority on his list. Tried talking to him, calmly and not so calmly, even talked to MIL (who I'm very close to) to try to convince him to spend more time with us, nothing works. In his mind he spends plenty of time with us (doing chores, watching TV over dinner--not quality time in my book). And he thinks his time is spent doing things for the house, not on video games or drinking, therefore I have to be supportive. But I would be more than happy with an overgrown yard if that means I don't have to live like a single mother with a very good handyman.

AITA here?