For the last 3 years I have housed my brother in law while he's "gets back on his feet". He's much older than my husband and has been living rent free for 3 years in my basement even though he assured us he would pay half the rent.

BIL was presumably saving money from odd jobs to get his own place until we learned this week that he has nothing to his name. He works as a tow truck driver and manages to get up and work maybe once every 2-3 weeks. And honestly that's pushing it.

While he's not working he's in bed watching TV and seemingly having a blast. When he does get up to buy food or bum around town he chooses not to shovel the walk if it needs it and won't even bring in and Amazon package that's been left while both myself and my husband are at work.

I asked my husband a few weeks ago to get and clothes iron we had stored in the basement bedroom since his brother moved in and when he entered the room the garbage was piled up so high it wasn't accessible. Fine. I bought a new iron.

The last straw for me was coming home 2 weeks ago dreaming of the poutine I had orderd the night before but couldn't finish. I was excited to not need to cook after getting off work and finish the delicious poutine! I looked in the fridge and it, along with my husbands leftovers , were gone. No trace. I start thinking maybe I ate it and didn't remember, but when my husband checked in with his brother he said he hadn't eaten in days and needed to eat our left overs. He figured we wouldn't mind cause I always make sure my fridge is well stocked and he decided I could just make something when I got home.

I am livid. We gave so much and it feels as though now, we are being taken advantage of. The BIL guilt trips my husband about not being able to find work and needing to hide from support payments but I'm so over it.

AITA for losing my mind over a poutine?