I’ve been trying for months to get my group of friends to go to a Korean-style restaurant. Every time I bring it up, they say they like the idea, but when it comes time to actually go, they suddenly “don’t feel like Korean food” or “don’t have time,” or they suggest a different cuisine entirely. And we do end up going somewhere else instead—and I go gladly, because at the end of the day, I just want to spend time with them.

A few months ago, we were this close to going, but on the day of, they changed their minds last minute. Recently, I suggested a different (cheaper) Korean place, and they loved the idea. We even picked a day to go. But now, a week before the planned outing, they’re suddenly saying they want to go to a different restaurant instead and scrap my idea altogether.

Trying to be a good friend, I just went along with it and said I’d go with them. But I also told the group that me and another friend from the same group were still planning to go to the Korean place the day before. They seemed annoyed by that.

I told them we could always reschedule the Korean place for another day and asked when would work for them. Their response? “Never”. I told the oldest member of the group that it felt unfair—I’m always trying to suggest restaurants or activities, but they never want to go with what I propose. His response? “You can complain and suggest changes, but you can’t expect something that doesn’t work to start working just because you want it xD.”

That kind of hit a nerve. So now I’m feeling upset, and I’m not sure if I even want to go to this hangout anymore. I feel like my input never really matters and I’m just being strung along.

So, AITA for feeling this way and maybe skipping the hangout?