My ex and I dated for almost 4 years before he left me for someone else. While he technically didn't cheat, I was still heartbroken and felt betrayed. We have a lot of mutual friends and it meant that I had to see him and his new partner together if I wanted to do things socially. Most of our mutual friends chose not to get involved, which was understandable, but it left me emotionally not ok, so I removed myself from the situation, blocked him on everything despite his insistence that we should remain friends, put in the work to heal, and moved on. It wasnt easy but I did it and am in a good and genuinely happy place in my life. He was not ok with being cut off and initially tried to reach out several times before I finally had to block him. While I no longer hold anger towards him, I have no possitive feelings towards him either. He is just someone I used to know and nothing more. Lucky for me I only have to see him once a year when we both work at the same event. I do not speak with him at all, including polite conversation, but I am also not mean or rude, I just do my job (in a different part of the event than him) and dont socialize with the same groups of people anymore. Its been this way for over 3 years now and everything has been good.

Last week I was cleaning out my room and came across a box I didn't recognize. When I opened it it was filled with a whole bunch of his pictures. When we first broke up I had put everything of his into a box and left it on my front porch to pick up but this was tucked away under my bed and not something I realized he had kept at my place so it was missed. It is too heavy for me to spend money on mailing to him, aside from the fact that I dont know where he even lives, but I know he will be at the event we both work in a few months and there is the option to give it to him there. The problem is I don't want to talk to him. I dont want to do the akward polite conversation. And I dont want him to think it means im in a place where I have forgiven him and want to be any kind of friends. I dont believe people need to forgive someone who isnt sorry for their behavior to heal and move on with their lives. Even if I handed it to one of our few remaining mutual friends so I personally wouldnt have to talk to him, he is the kind of guy who would seek me out to thank me, even knowing I don't want to talk to him (he tried something like this the first year after we broke up and I just walked past him like he didnt exists to then later have him tell people how cold and heartless I am) My other option is to just throw the box away. Its been years and it doesn't seem like he remembers this box at all, never once asking for it prior to me blocking him. He probably forgot he even left it at my place and it may not even be something he cares about but to me this option feels kind of mean and I don't want to be mean. While I didnt go through it much, the few things I saw when i initially opened it where a lot of family pictures from his younger years and they may have sentimental value. So WIBTA to just throw it away?