I (22M) recently lost my job over a simple mistake and the housing that was being offered through that job, and it’s been devastating. I’ve been forced to move back with my family, who live in a small town with no prospects or people my age.

My good friend of more than 4 years (23M) lives near where I used to work, in a metropolitan area with a lot more going on and a lot more opportunities. I’ve already started applying to other jobs in that area. My friend rents a huge 2 bedroom apartment with his brother, and it has an upstairs open loft area with a small guest bed.

He’s been supportive of me through all of this, but when I asked him if I could crash at his place if I get a job in the area, just until I secure my own apartment, he said he’d talk to his brother. Then a day later he told me I could stay a day or two if needed but not longer. I was pretty upset by this, as a day or two would not be enough to find and get settled at a new apartment, by any means…

He hosted another friend at his place for weeks when she got kicked out of her place. I know it’s different, but still… I expected more support from someone I’ve been such good friends with for so long. A long time ago I told him I was afraid of ending up homeless, and he said I had friends I could stay with, and shouldn’t fret. I even said I’d be glad to contribute rent and help organize/clean regularly when I asked if I could crash at his (his place is always a mess). I just feel slighted. I thought this friend had my back but in my hour of need, he’s really letting me down.

I haven’t told him how I feel yet because I don’t want to alienate one of my only local friends. Am I expecting too much? Am I being greedy? I just don’t know what to do… I haven’t saved up nearly enough with this last job to make rent somewhere, and I don’t want to be back home for too long or I’ll surely get depressed.