I [M45+] have a good (even best) friend [F48] for the last decade or so online in Videogames. Things were rough since their conservative but we for through Felon's first term.

But a few days ago she hopped into game and asked how I was doing. I deflected with Doing terrible, but what can you do?' sort of answers then finally started talking to them about IRL (I virtually never do). About how the Government had caused me to risk losing my home my food, ruined medical appointments that are vital caused medicine to run out, etc, etc.

I forget the exact wording of he original comment - I was complaining about the not fraud they were finding and just hurting people and doing Nazi sht.

"Her: Oh they arent Nazis.

Me: If 9 Nazis sit down at a table and you sit with them then there are ten Nazis at the table."

Also;

"Me: I dont even talk to X any more. He got mad at me for posting the suicide hotline numbers for Transfolks.

Her: But wouldnt you agree thats a sensitive subject you shouldnt be posting about?

Me: If someone thinks stopping Trans people from committing suicide is bad then fuck them."

Next day I wrote an email saying I was sorry for upsetting her I was having a melt down.

I got a reply "You called me a Nazi and told me to fuck off."

Im just..am I over reacting? The comments werent aimed at them but their taking it like they are, right? I really want to be wildly off base here but I dont know how else to see it.

I went ahead and sent a message back saying the next time Im speaking on my feelings Ill be sure to consider her first. I probably shouldnt of but I just - well I sort of feel like my heart is breaking a bit.