AITA for being upset about something that happened a few years ago.

This might be long but it’s all needed. Friend A, B and I all became friends through our partners. Friend A and I came to a point where we did not like one of Friend B’s friends and mentioned it in the group chat. To be fair this was a bit mean of us to talk about her, but this friend of theirs only had bad blood with me for these reasons:

1. When I started to date my current partner, her friend who talked to my partner right before me despised me. No exaggeration. She talked 💩 about me to her coworkers. One of her close friends even got to know me and said “Wow I really had the wrong impression of you” because of what said person said about me. Friend B’s friend knew this, and called my partner at 2 in the morning one night well after we were in a public relationship with each other and she was drunk with the friend who talked about me. As a woman, you know what you’re doing. They tried to get him to go over, obviously he didn’t.

2. She called my partner work husband WHILE in a relationship, and I did not appreciate it so I let him know. Personal boundaries, everyone’s different and that was mine. It did bother me a bit that they did a whole fake divorce because of this, it just seemed a bit petty towards me especially because she posted it on socials.

Friend A complained in the group chat about her and I agreed. Friend B said she did not want to be apart of it because she was friends with her. While we should have left the chat to complain on our own, that is our fault, she was defending this person. I was a bit mean about the way I talked about her, but that happens. We’re human sometimes we dislike people and we say mean things. This person had also been rude to me before and allowed her friend who talked bad about me to say that stuff about me when I couldn’t defend myself. Friend B made it a point to be known that this person couldn’t defend themselves in the chat, but I couldn’t defend myself either and her friend still allowed the other person to make comments about me. I had told friend B personal boundaries I had and why I had a problem with said issues, others included and she talked to me and reassured me these were valid. This is important.

This all caused us to stop talking for a few weeks but we later reconciled. Everything was fine.

2 years later, Friend A and I got closer bc we started gaming together. We continued to try and make plans as a trio to hang out, but our schedules did not align with friend B. Friend B and her partner also split, which made it harder for her to go out and they also did not like to go out to bars. Friend A and I did. Which we did when our schedules aligned, we gamed and we hung out once a week because it was the only day we were both free. Friend B did not have that day free. While I can see how this would make them feel left out, we still messaged her to check up on her and just have conversations. I even mentioned how my schedule would change once my 2nd semester started and we would have the same evenings free to make plans.

Well, Friend B deleted us off socials, and we did the same. No harm, it happens. Friend B was in a group I knew about that was a drama group and I went to go see just to try and figure out why she cut us off, to see what we did. I did not find anything about now BUT, i did find screenshots of our group chat and her posting our WHOLE conversation, only censoring names. It was obviously from 2 years ago, but she left out the reasons I did not like her friend, and called all my reasons “insecurities.” She also said they were “work husband/wife” before I was in the picture and for that I shouldn’t be upset. All the comments on the post are calling ME, insecure and childish for having boundaries in my relationship. Crazy tho because I have no problem with my partner having friends who do not disrespect our relationship. It’s also funny how she calls me insecure in the comments while reassuring me my feelings were valid in person. Anyways. This is a lot, but even now 2 years later I feel like commenting on the post and saying “It’s funny how you left out what she did to me, and how she ends up messing with your BD a year after this conversation and you are now not friends with her either” but it’s been years now and there is no reason to do that. But am I the asshole for being upset about it now?