okay, bear with me and please read this all before responding! im going to try to lay out the facts as unbiased as possible because i really dont know if my bf is being unreasonable or if i am or if we’re just both a little bit unreasonable. -i (21f) am finishing up my first year of a two year degree (electronics engineering technology) i usually have anywhere from 40-60 hours a week of homework and do probably 50-60% of the housework in the apartment i share with my bf (im not on the lease, this comes up later) - i am not working at the moment, my bf (22m) pays for almost everything except we split groceries most of the time -my bf does door to door sales as his job, he made 75k last year but his pay varies month to month based on commission. he works 30 hours a week. our rent is $695 right now -he asked me a couple weeks ago to get a job and expressed that he was struggling paying the bills. i really wanted to help him out so i agreed to get a job for at least the summer so i can help him and have been giving him a little money here and there when i have it - last night a bee got into our apartment (he spent last week caulking the windows and spaying for bugs) and it seems like due to the age of the building nothing is going to keep these bees out. we have a cat and are concerned about her getting stung so he started looking for a new apartment and they were all 800+. i expressed concerns that if hes struggling with money already we shouldnt get a more expensive apartment. -he then told me itd be okay once i start my job and start contributing and i reiterated that i may not be able to keep the job once the fall semester starts because the classes are really hard and im taking 18 credit hours -he told me its be fine and if he has to he’ll start putting less in his savings. he told me he puts about 40% of his checks into his savings and never takes it out. i expressed frustration at the fact that i have no savings because ive been trying so hard to help him out, and even once i start a job ill be making significantly less money than him and wont be able to build up any savings. he told me his savings are my savings (we arent married). i asked why he seemed like he was struggling so hard when he has so much in savings and he expressed that hed just rather have me work while going to school full time than to dip into his savings. -i asked if we get a new apartment and i start contributing to rent, would i be on the lease? he said the lease is only for the person contributing the MOST to rent and that theres no need for me to be on the lease (he later said he didnt care if i was on the lease or not)

my dilemma here is i know he isnt being an asshole, but im very frustrated at the whole thing and i truly dont know if im an asshole here. i am very willing to get a job and work as hard as i need to to help him out but he works 6 hours a day and i do homework for about 8 and a job on top of that is going to be a huge stress on me and it seems like he doesnt understand that ill be exhausted and ran ragged. he told me most men wouldnt even let a girlfriend live with them without paying rent in the first place even if they are going to school. its super frustrating that he doesnt see how hard it will be for me and would rather have me stressed every day than pull out of his savings or cut back on unnecessary expenses. so yea AITA?? Any advice?