AITA for being upset that my (30f) husband (35m) gets to just go to bed once all the kids are asleep? Leaving all of the nightly house chores for me to clean up? He's an OTR trucker and is only home for 34 hours every week or so. He only has 11 hours a day that he is allowed to drive, and then is REQUIRED to take a 10 hour break, then his clock resets again for another 11 hour work day. He is up and driving fairly early - around 4am most mornings. He comes home in the evening, sometimes after the kids are already asleep, spends the day with us, then gets up the following morning and is gone by 7am. When he is home EVERYTHING is chaos. The kids, their sleep, bed time, meals...it's bonkers. I knew that him choosing this field to work in would be hard, but I never expected that's I'd be a married single mom even on the days he is home. If there are dishes in the sink, he will move them aside to make room for his truck dishes and just wash(we don't have a dishwasher) those leaving the rest of the household dishes for me. When eating a meal together, he will take care of only his plate, leaving the children's plates on the table for me. If he has laundry, he only wash-drys-folds his laundry, even if he sees the pile of children's clothes (that I have yet to get to) are sitting on the couch right next to him. I typically stay up later just to accomplish the most pressing task while I have some quiet moments to myself before heading to bed, which is either folding laundry, picking up all the kids toys, or the dishes. But when he's home, I still do everything I always do. Side fact: on top of him only taking care of his personal things, he has a temper with the kids. He could only be home 2 hours and is already extremely frustrated and put out with the kids. God forbid he has to take his typical hour long shower. (Usually he plans to shower at a truck stop before he comes home because the kids are so bothersome that he can't focus on his routine). They are just excited that he is finally home that they just want to be around him, and it's sad when he tells them 'y'all just make this so much harder'. When I hear shit like that, I tell him 'don't blame them for being kids, blame your own inadequacy to adapt'. I get that being on your own for a week at a time is tough, but I'm in the throes of motherhood with four young kids (7f, 5m, 3f, 1m) day in and day out. He gets MANDATORY 10 rest times. He can sleep, cook, play video games, watch movies or shows, have groceries delivered, doom scroll on his phone. So when he comes home and is 'fucking exhausted' and 'the kids are so frustrating'. It's hard to have compassion for him. Im the one who hasn't gotten a full nights rest in the last 8 years, im the one with boots on the fucking ground, in these damn trenches. Cleaning, caring, booboos, fights, cooking, emotional regulating for myself and the children, grocery shopping, all the things. And he just falls asleep. So, Reddit, am I the asshole?