📝 AITA for blowing up on my mom and my aunt (again)?

By Willing_Twist9428 • Score: 8 • April 4, 2025 12:17 AM


For context I am 29 m and they are both 67 f and 68 f.

Long story short: my mom and I moved back to our home city (much bigger compared to the mid-sized city we were living in) 2 1/2 years ago because we felt like the time was right, and wanted a change. Initially we wanted a place of our own, but my aunt wanted all 3 of us to live together.

My mom and I hesitated because my mom and my aunt both lived together about 35 years ago, and it only lasted a year because they kept arguing, so my mom moved out. At the time my mom had a job so she found a place of her own. Plus I wasn't mentally prepared to live with somebody else after my mom and dad divorced (dad was an alcoholic). But in the end we decided to make the move.

I started seeing cracks almost right away when my aunt would nitpick at things my mom was doing, and my mom would get upset over it. My mom would do the same thing to my aunt and my aunt would get upset over it. Initially I didnt mind it but as time grew it began to get on my nerves.

I already blew up on them a few months back when they argued over something silly, and having had to endure so many arguments from when my parents were still married, I just blew up and told them both to "shut the fuck up".

Today they were arguing over something else (this came 2 days after my aunt called my mom 'slow' which pissed off my mom) and this time I blew my gasket again. Only this time I kept going on and on and on.

It doesn't help that since we moved I've struggled to find a job, trying different employment agencies + programs but going nowhere. I'm signed up with another one in hopes it works. Our next door neighbour (we live in an apartment complex) is a nutjob who keeps slamming his doors, making noises, and the landlord can't kick him out because they went to court and the tenant won.

I'm not someone to get angered easily, but recently I've just been having more of a temper and it's really getting to me. Everything bothers me, and it doesn't help that I have to listen to my mom and aunt argue over silly nonsensical things. My mom and I can't afford to move out on our own so we're essentially stuck with this arrangement for the time being.

I'm literally just fed up with life, but I'm asking you all.. AITA? If I am, just tell me. I want the cold harsh truths.

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