My (20F) boyfriend (22M) is currently traveling abroad. Before he left, we had multiple conversations about boundaries and trust especially because we recently got back together after a breakup. The last time we broke up, it was because he went to a bar, got a girl’s phone number, and then dumped me a few days later. He later admitted it was a mistake and begged for another chance, promising to do better.

So, understandably, I’ve been cautious. When he left for this trip, he reassured me that he’d be transparent and prioritize making me feel secure. He agreed to check in with me, respect our boundaries, and keep me in the loop.

The other night, he told me he was going to sleep early at the hostel. I wished him goodnight. But later I found out he wasn’t at the hostel at all, he was at a bar drinking with two random guys he’d just met. He didn’t mention anything about going out, didn’t update me, and then randomly facetimes me from the bar laughing and drunk while I was clearly upset and confused.

I called him out for lying, and instead of apologizing or owning up to anything, he acted confused on why I was breaking up with him. He told me “I only want you but if you don’t feel the same way then I can’t convince you.” and told me that he loves me but couldn’t talk because he was “too drunk.” He ignored several of my calls while I was clearly trying to have a real conversation. I explained to him that he disrespected my boundaries, broke my trust and hurt me. Also that it was about honesty and the fact that he deliberately told me something else and went against the exact opposite of what we had talked about.

So I told him I was done. I said, “You lost me. I hope the whole night was worth it.” I don’t feel like I overreacted, especially considering our past. But now I feel like I’m being dramatic for ending things over “just going to a bar,” and that I should’ve been more understanding because he was drunk and traveling.

I feel like this wasn’t just about a bar. It was a clear pattern repeating itself. And I’m tired of being disrespected.

So AITA?

Context: He broke up with me 8 times over different things but usually most of them were because he’d get caught with different things like tinder or talking to girls.