I 21,F live with two roomates Ann and Reese, 24 and 23 F.

Ann’s boyfriend and I belong to the same ethnic group thats not a minority or subjugated in my country but also not one with too much power. So its at a level where casual jokes at our expense is no big deal (even I participate in that) but there are few nutcases out there who hate us hate us.

Ann’s mother has huge problems with this relationship and has done everything in her power to break them up only coz of the bfs identity. She is a bigoted Ahole and that is really hurtful to my roomate, obviously. Ann shares her sorrow with us and we make space for that. Resse Ann and I are actually pretty good friends.

Yesterday they started making some jokes at my ethnicity’s expense. This is usually no big deal coz its pedantic to take offense at and we make jokes at Ann and Reese’ ethnicity’s expense too. If kept casual its a normal thing to do in my country.

However, it got a bit extreme yesterday to the point that i didnt enjoy it anymore. I tried explain it to them but they didnt take it seriously. I got pissed and in a heated moment said “i know you dont mean it Ann but someone like your mother does and that is hurtful enough”.

Important to keep in mind is, her mother has never said anything to me personally. But all that she says about Anns bf does reach my ears and makes me feel scared for myself too. This is a fear i have had but never shared with Ann coz she already has a lot on her plate anyway. Plus its not like an eminent threat.

However it came out yesterday and Ann said i made things unnecessarily personal. Which i agreed with and apologised but stood by my point of having the right to feel scared by bigots who is seriously hateful against my identity.

Aita?

Ps. I am open to giving any info that wont doxx me to anyone who is ready to know the complex culture of my country. Please dont make arbitrary guesses about our identities. Thanks.