Throwaway account cuz my roommate uses reddit quite a bit. I (F21) live in the university hostel along with my roommate (F21), who came out as Lesbian two years ago. This is an all womens hostel, and naturally any girl she dated within the university became quite a regular visitor to our room. See now our room is quite small. It has just enough space for two single beds, a desk and 2 cupboards with some open space. Its just one mid-sized room with no partitions etc.

Now my roommate is a bit of a serial dater, and any woman she dated, she would get really close to, spend all day everyday together, until the other girl got bored pf her and dumped her. She would cry for days and I’d support her through all of this- getting her breakfast, doing her laundry, cleaning up etc. All of her girlfriends would constantly be in the room, at all times. I wake up in the morning, they’re there spooning on the bed. I get back from class - i walk in on them making out. I return from the gym at night, they’re there again. She’s been going steady with a new girl (F18) for a couple of months, and things have gotten worse. To the point where everytime i enter the room they give me weird looks, as though it wasn’t my room to begin with. It got so bad to the point where i’d take a shower and try to change in my room, and they’d make a big deal out of going outside while i changed saying “we’re being together rn”. I cant even attend online meetings in my room since they’re always chattering away. I don’t sleep in my room anymore either, cuz the common room on the top floor is air conditioned, and i have a bed there that i can use occasionally. I found out that they have sex on my bed while i’m away because they mess up the layout of my space to push the beds together which i have to rearrange in the morning.

I had an open conversation with her one day, and told her that i didn’t mind her gf coming over, but if she could limit that to the evenings after 7 since I really need to be able to go about my day like a normal person. Firstly, she cried. She cries everytime i confront her about something going “why are you mad at mee🥺🥹🥹” and make me feel like shit for even saying anything. But i did it anyways. She agreed, and for a few days all was good, until they reverted back to the same behaviour again.

After another month of this, i kinda reached my breaking point when i had project submissions and hadn’t slept in a week. So i crashed on my bed at 4 pm. At around 5 i was woken up by the sobs of my roommates gf. She was crying because she didn’t make it in some dance audition??? (Imo this is nothing to cry about, it was a small stage performance and she’s pretty much in all of them. It wasn’t even a significant performance, just for some small college event). And my roommate was consoling her……till she too started crying 💀. Really loud crying. I just woke up. Didn’t look at either of them, then left the room. When i came back the gf had left and my roommate asked if i wanted to have dinner. I just said “i can’t have dinner with you today” and left the room. I come back, and lo and behold she’s crying….again… and there’s 3 ppl surrounding her asking whats wrong. And she just says “My roommate yelled at meeee🥺”. Thankfully these girls were also my friends and just trusted me to deal with it. I told her she was being really unfair, and that i needed my personal space. I said “you can’t have sex on my bed because its disgusting. If you want to fuck her so bad then check into a hotel and do it like every other couple”. She called me insensitive of her issues, and accused me of being a homophobe because apparently i had a problem seeing her with her new gf. Which really is not the case atp cuz I’ve lived through all of her relationships and not said a word. I know its hard for them to be affectionate in public (our campus is very lgbtq friendly though), but i feel like atp I’m sacrificing waaayy too much just to make her relationship work. AITAH?