I am in a very weird position at the moment and I really don’t know what to do at the moment. I currently just had an argument with my mom and called her out for treating me strange the last year and a half. This whole story starts about a year ago after I came home from my freshman year of college. I had struggled that whole year due to my family not helping me besides moving into my dorm. I basically just lived day to day not being able to do much besides eat, study, and relax in my room unlike my peers who were able to go out and buy things but it didn’t bother me much because I was in college to study and get my degree. Fast forward to the end of freshman year and I didn’t know exactly what to do at the moment because I realized that computer science was a field that was taken up and was really hard to get a job in. So I told my mom I was going to take a gap year to at least get a job and figure out what I want to do when I go back to college. This is where problems started because when I got lucky and finally found a job my mother said I had to pay $300 worth of rent a month, pay the electric bill, and I would no longer get any help or food from her in the house. So essentially I had to buy my own food. I told my friends about it and they said it sounded like my mom wouldn’t want to feed her 17 year old son anymore and it was weird . I tried to think of it in a positive way by seeing it as her preparing me for the real world but it was hard to.

Aftaer I turned 18, it seemed that my mother’s behavior towards me has completely changed. I haven’t received a single thing for the holidays, (even though I wasn’t expecting much because I was 18), I was expected to pay help pay the rent or I had to completely leave her house, and although she demands I help her pay for the rent she wants me to save up for a place of my own so I can move out. This is hard to do considering most of my paycheck contributes to the house or my survival like buying food. I don’t even spend much on food either and limit myself to $70-$100 dollars a week for groceries. There is a lot more that has happened between me and my mother and maybe I’ll write more about it in another post but I just wanted to ask if I’m the asshole for yelling at her after we had an argument and calling her a bad mom. I feel like she should be supporting me and I haven’t felt any of that ever since I went to college and turned 18.