I’m sorry that this is really long

TW: talk of mental health, attempts and su!c!dal thoughts.

My boyfriend (18M) and I (19F) have been dating for around a month now. We dated last year but decided to go on a break to work on ourselves. We got back together in march. I had an attempt in match due to major online bullying and family problems. Unfortunately both him and his mum saved me. The next day his Mum claimed my mental health etc was fake and I just did it for her son’s attention. I rung him to check in on him and his mum answered yelling at me calling me fake and that I need help because I’m a liar. She said she was going to the police about this and that she was recording the call? She also mentioned something about a pregnancy test I had taken last year that was positive and claimed I was fake on that too. She went on about how faking wasnt ok as she almost lost my boyfriend’s sister during her pregnancy.

I apologised that she went through that and said nothing was fake but she didn’t believe me. (I was not pregnant by the way it was a false positive). After I got upset and tried explaining things we hung up. Apparently she was the one who blocked me on his phone on everything she could find. We both needed space so I tried holding off and giving him space for a while. I also had another episode where I didn’t eat or get out of bed for around 4 days and had to have a hosptial visit due to things she said.

After 2 weeks I was done with everyone and everything so I ran away with a friend and left notes with people. Apparently my family, friends and police were looking for me including my boyfriend (at the time ex). After a few days I decided to login to my socials when I saw I was being looked for and saw a missing post. I messaged my Mum and couple of other people. She told me she sent people the letters I had. Including the ones I spent 2 weeks on to apologise to my boyfriend and his mother for what had happened.

After talking to a few people and having my boyfriend text me I calmed down. I spoke things out with him and others. He apologised for calling me fake etc. People thought I might’ve unalived myself and my boyfriend told me his parents and family didn’t care and told him not to worry about me and to push me to the side. His mum apparently read the letters and told me it was a whole sob story.

Now a month later we’ve been dating and talking through things. We’ve been ok and communicating a lot better. He didn’t tell her for a few days that we were talking again but when she found out she wouldn’t leave him alone about it and said she may throw hands with me if she sees me. A few weeks ago my partner came over to see me and his phone died for like 30 minutes and I had his Aunty adding me and his mum had tried to call ALOT. Apparently she called for a police check on him to see if he was ok. The next week she got into a very minor car accident not even a scratch and I had his Mums mum messaging me and his aunty messaging me saying to message his mum. Why didn’t she message me I don’t know?

We went into town because my partner wanted to see her but didn’t want to go without me. I sat in the car why he visited her at her work. Then we went to go get dinner with one of my friends. She called him to say she was coming to see him which I was iffy about because she has said before she would throw hands with me if she saw me in person and my friend is severely autistic and can’t deal with drama. She turned up anyway and my partner got up as quick as he could to get in between us. She didn’t acknowledge me or say anything. I tried to small talk with my friend and ignore them. She was cuddling my boyfriend in public for a few minutes it felt uncomfortable.

Since then I’ve heard she’s made many comments about me to my boyfriend and to others. The most recent comments about me was I should have a job and that my mental health is not a reason not to have a job. I also have physical conditions that affect my day to day life. I’ve been working on both so I can get a job. I live alone have my own place, my own bills, my own appointments and my own cat. I also have a dog but the owner of my place doesn’t want dogs in the place. Another recent comment of hers sounded out of the blue saying I shouldn’t have kids till I’m ready. Another recent comment being that my partner told her I was scared of her (because he got what I was saying mixed up) and her comment was that I should be. All I said to my partner is at the ceremony we were going to I didn’t want to fight for the attention with your Mum so I would stand down (this was for the Anzac ceremony). She didn’t end up coming anyways.

He was here a few days ago and his Mum said if he didn’t go home she would take his car (as it’s still registered in her name but he pays rego etc and she rarely drives it). So he went home and he stood up for himself and she said he has till this Friday and she will take the car because she’s sick of him coming to my house. I got upset as I had enough. How is he meant to go to work and back etc? I messaged her a long message in short saying to remember she has a problem with me and not her son and that she should treat him like a son and not a toy. I also explained how much I’ve been there for him when she hasn’t been and that I know she’s been talking behind my back and that I had enough of it. She then told my partner if I messaged her again she would go to the police for harassment.

The other day I almost ended things between us because I had a major breakdown on how she was treating me and he had a huge breakdown too as far as she new she was winning because she knew I had had enough. I’ve decided to keep pushing on and somehow deal with this.

I’m majorly stuck with how to deal with this. She calls him every time he’s over, she threatens police with no emergency or major issue and wastes their time, she gets his family to message me instead of just talking to me, she threatens to bash me and now she’s taking my partners car. My boyfriend has PTSD and his own mental health issues so I understand it makes it harder for him to stand up to her. He also lives with her so it’s hard for him to try not to get kicked out.

I’m sorry that this is really long. If you’ve read this all thank you so much.