I (43F) left my marriage after 25 yrs due to narcissistic abuse. Kids are grown now. Youngest is 18, lives with me. I stayed for the 3 of them, not knowing it wasn't a good thing, I wanted out for decades. I never would have pictured myself doing this, but 2 months later, I reunited with a high school flame. He (46M) was EXTREMELY attentive emotionally. I've never had that in my entire life. I told him I thought it was too fast, I likely needed more time alone. He promised to help me and be understanding.And he did. Lifted me waaaay up. Too up. Too much. He moved in with me 3 hours away after 3 months. I had nothing much, neither did he. I let my ex have it all so I could go NC. But I had to help him get a vehicle to get here. It's been a yr and a half. He promised he wanted to set up for the future with me, but he spends every dime and has NO care about future except what he will eat next. He now has emphysema from smoking but won't quit. He has heart conditions due to a lifetime of drug abuse (sober now for 8 yrs). He promised he would be my partner, but he won't do anything unless forced. I LOVE cooking, as I've done so for my family for 25 years. He won't help or eat leftovers. He works hard his 40, sits on the couch watching tv, which I don't care to do, the rest of his time, eating crap food because I stopped cooking now. He won't help with repairs on anything, watches me YouTube it from the couch.He discusses wanting his unemployed 20 yr old daughter to move in with us because he misses her so. The sex is so terrible I dread it being brought up. My mom and 2 nephews are dependent on me now. He is such a genuine person! HUGE heart. But I'm now seeing him as weighing me down. If I split us up, he works where I do. And he will be devastated. It will be so awkward. AITA? Honestly asking cuz I feel so guilty. He has no one to help him. He says I'm all he has. I wouldn't put him on the streets, but he and I together make the bills, so how would that work? I'm just so unhappy. I have very little time to set up a retirement, and if something happens to my mom I'm now raising 2 more kids after raising 3, 1 biologically related to the 2 she has..my youngest. I feel selfish and trapped.