📝 AITAH for letting my friends in an argument vent to me??

By L3V1_S3N • Score: 3 • April 17, 2025 12:36 AM


So this situation is actually really stupid, but mostly I'm just feeling a heavy amount of guilt I guess? So for some context I (15M) am homeschooled. This is my first year being homeschooled, (I had to not go into high school because of bullying complication.) Anyway, I still kinda stay in touch with all of my friends from last year, mostly just "Happy birthday!" Or "how's life going" kinda texts here and there. In our prime we were very close, always hanging out and got along pretty smoothly. It was me and three other people. A brother and sister we'll call James (16M) and Anna(15F), and another girl we'll call Sadie(15F). Before I joined the group they had all been friends since elementary school. Recently though I got a text from Anna, saying that she needed to vent. Me being the aspiring therapist I am, I said yes. She goes on to text me about dating drama between her and Sadie, saying that Sadie dated this guy in January and broke up with him a month later. Since then Anna and this guy have gotten very close, and he asked her out. Now Sadie is furious at Anna, saying how she betrayed her by dating one of her Ex boyfriends. Personally, I think dating this young is a little silly, it rarly ever works out because of how young and immature we all still are. Now with this being said, she called me crying and saying how helpless she feels. It sounded like she really needed some advice/ a shoulder to cry on so I tried to be that. I kept somewhat a neutral stance being that I have no idea what's really going on, just going off everything she's telling me. It sounded like typical 15 year old drama, but I didn't mind trying to be a good friend to her. All I really said was the reaction Sadie gave was completly unnecessary, and didn't need to blow up at Anna.

Anyway about 2 days passes, and I then get a text from Sadie, asking if SHE could vent about something. I text back something like "Sure, but cant call right now I'm busy." Anyway she goes on to send me a voice memo of her crying and venting about the same situation, saying how she wants to break the friendship of 10 years over this. I wanted to say something along the lines of "You guys need to just talk it out, this is gonna blow over I bet" but I knew this would not make Sadie very happy. Anyway, I felt guilty and caved. Finally I texted her some half ass advice saying that there was a lack of communication. She texted back thank you, and she really needed someone to talk to.

I really don't like drama, especially being part of it. But being homeschooled I have a huge lack of social interaction, and kinda selfishly took advantage of both my friends finally talking to me again. Even though the right thing to do was probably just ghost them and not get involved, I caved and now I feel very two faced and guilty. I could just walk away and ghost them now but I dug myself too deep and I know that's not the moral thing to do. I'm wondering if I should reach out to James about the whole situation but I don't know if that will possibly make it even worse. AITA?

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