AITA For confronting my insecure ex best friend about her rude behavior

sorry for the bad grammar. English is not my first language. Pls give honest feedback I would love to hear your opinion on this and ask any questions you got. Thank you

My best friend (18F) (let's call her ivy) and me (17F) met at a Somali wedding but at that time we were 12 and 11. We both were seated at the same table and started talking. I found out that we had some things in common one of them being that we were both Kpop fans. Her favorite was Black Pink and mine was BTS. We exchanged each others phone numbers and started bonding with each others. We also performed kill this love by Black Pink which I regret because that's when my insecurity started. At that time I was on the chubbier side and I was wearing a black dress that was tight on me. Forward to middle school, me and Ivy were both enrolled in the same school and were in 6 grade. She's a year older than me because she was held back a year or at least that's what she told me. At first, Ivy seemed like a good friend. We would play Roblox, visit each other, and call all the time. As we grew I started to notice her behavior change. She would insult people and I would fake laugh to make her feel good. She comments on peoples bodies and was always projecting. Being the naive idiot that I am I went along with it. She honestly ruined middle school for me. Other students weren't the only one she did this with. She also commented on my body and called me mean anytime she asks to wear MY jacket that AM wearing on MY body.

In 7th grade, I made a new friend (let's call her baddie 😜). Baddie and I met at a play ground near hers and Ivy's house. Me, Ivy, Baddie, and my sister were just playing and having fun. Baddie seemed great and we connected instantly. She also goes the same school as us. Baddie and I had gym and art together. She was kind and amazing. Ivy was the first friend that I bonded with and had things in common with so having Baddie as my friend really made me question my friendship with Ivy. She was so much different than her. In ELA, me and Ivy were seating next to each doing our work. Her phone was dying so I offered to go get mine from my locker. I asked the teacher to go to the bathroom and went to go grab my charger. I came back and sat down. I glanced at her computer and saw that she was watching an indian show. The same one I was watching before getting the charger. I asked her how she knew this show and she told me she's been watching this forever. Now I know this doesn't seem like an issue but I knew damn well she didn't know this show. It was on my tab so obviously she got it from my computer. she started talking about it like she knew it. I went along with it because I didn't want to make things weird and I can't just say she's lying to her face.

One day we eating breakfast with her other friend and she brought up Baddie. She told me I should stop being friends with her because she was bad news. I was so confused and so was her friend. She went on about how Baddie seemed like a horrible friend and some other things I don't remember. I obviously told her now with her friend agreeing with me. I mean if anyone meet Baddie they would see her as an amazing friend. when it was 3rd hour, she brought it up again. She told me that her and baddie were watching Anime together on baddies computer and when a kissing scene came on Baddie didn't skip it. She also told me that she went to baddies house and she was butt ass naked sitting on a chair watching her computer. HUH? she said that when she came in Baddie didn't even try to cover up. GURL. First of all I do not care if she watches anime with kissing scenes and anime tends to have those kinda things. And I know she is lying about the naked thing because who in there right mind would be naked in front of someone you barely know. She told me that her mom opened the door. If the someone knocked on the door the mom would've made her cover up. I told her all this is nonsense and I won't end my friendship with Baddie. She got mad at me and ignored me for the day. I mean the WHOLE day. On the bus she tried sitting next to me and I told her I don't want to speak to her. She didn't listen and still sat next to me. I put on my headphones and just listened to my playlist. We eventually made up after a few days. In school she would sometimes try to embarrass me and act like a pick me. I honestly wonder what the HECK I was doing still being friends with her. One day, on the bus, I was sitting next to Baddie and Ivy was sitting on the other side of the bus 2 seats ahead. A student came and sat next to her. This for some reason angered her and she started yelling at the student to get out her seat. The kid argued back and said her name is not on the seat. They kept arguing until they got into a fight. The bus driver called the cops and other student stopped the fight. after I got off the bus, I was walking with my other friend who recorded the fight and I told her to send it to me. I went home and told my sister what happened. My sister is a year older than me and she was in High school. My sister called Ivy and they started talking about the fight. Ivy kept saying she won but lets me honest that kid was full on beating her. On the phone call she seemed cool but after a view hours my mom came to the room and began asking me and my sister if we did something at school. We were both confused and asked what happened. Apparently, Ivy's aunt called my mom yelling and cursing at her because the cops were called on Ivy. Her aunt wouldn't pick up the phone afterwords so my mom sent her voice text. Her aunt also sent one and she said to my mom "keep your daughter away from ours". She basically blamed us for what happened. Now why the HECK would her aunt accuse me and my sister even though my sister doesn't go to the same school and I wasn't even sitting next to her. The entire fight, I literally didn't even move. I just sat in my seat and watched everything happen. Her aunt had no reason to come at us so the only thing left to think about is Ivy lying to her and blaming us for it. A few days went by and we all made up.

My sister and Ivy started talking to each other more and all of the sudden Ivy changed. She now hates BlackPink and would speak ill about Kpop. She started listening to rap like my sister and started spending more time with her. I honestly didn't care. I was too kind to end our friendship and tell her how terrible she is but her becoming friends with my sister became a golden ticket for me. I distanced myself from her and now we don't talke at all. She's only in my life because she's friends with my sister. On the other hand, me and Baddie are thriving. Our friendship feels like a warm hug. She honestly is the best thing that happened to my life. She's hilarious and kind. We would call almost everyday. We went to summer school with each other. Baddie moved out of my state but we still stayed in touch. At this time I was 16 so started working at Walmart. Ivy and my sister also were working there (they're cashiers). After 3 days I meet a girl (let's call her Chicago, she's from there) who worked in the same department as me (we worked at the home department) and we became friends. We had the same schedule and enjoyed each other company. While we were working Ivy and my sister would come up to us when they were returning items. I don't know if they're just lazy or were never taught this but they kept asking us where things went. There is a WHOLE app you can use to scan items and see where they're located. I told them this but they said they don't want to do it. Ivy would sometimes give me and Chicago dirty looks. This bothered us because she was straight up being rude to us. She also said I look like a monkey in front of her team lead. The team lead was talking to my sister so she didn't really hear it. This girl kept giving us dirty looks and would act like we are friends afterwords. She even told another cashier that I liked him ( I don't even know the man). Im not new to her behavior because she would quite literally body shame me in middle school.

I was fed up with her behavior and so was Chicago. Me, Chicago, and my sister decided to have a chat with her one day. This is how it basically went. We called her and told her about her dirty looks and comments. She was confused and didn't feel like she did anything wrong. So she told us that if we had a problem with it why didn't we just tell her. IM SORRY, I'm I suppose to tell you that it is wrong insulting and giving dirty looks to people. She also said that's just the way she is. she kept using this as her excuse and eventually apologized when she realized we were all against her. I knew she didn't regret anything because the next few days she started with her dirty looks agains. When me and Chicago were working on a project she came over to us and greeted us. She was shopping for a birthday cake and told us how she got the cake but didn't have money for candles. She kept saying that and I realized that she wanted me to offer to pay for her. I did no such thing. she eventually left when she realized I wasn't gonna pay for her candles.

Ivy quit Walmart and I only saw her when she came to buy things. She only talks to my sister and we barely see each other. Now I know your wondering, why is your sister still friends with her? My sister and ivy constantly have arguments and stuff but still end up forgiving each other. My sister also noticed how she been acting and was defending me on the day we confronted her. They are still friends but my sister was looking to cut her out of her life. She started see how toxic she is but wanted to use her until they got into an argument. me and my family are taking a vacation to Africa (Somaliland) and unfortunately Ivy is coming with us. Me and ivy weren't beefing but I still can't forgive her. Many other things happened then what I just mention but let me tell you, you wouldn't want her as your friend. I mean like one time she kept making fun of a girls breast because they were small and now she wants surgery because of how small hers look. This girl has always been insecure about herself and would always project that to others. She Never felt good about herself. I know that she is my sisters friend and we haven't had any arguments but I still don't want that negative toxic energy living with us when we go see our family back home. She's going with her aunt and a bit earlier than us but would live in the same house as us.

Mind you she still comments on my body as a "joke" when she's on the phone with my sister. I honestly can't find the place In my heart to forgive someone who made me insecure about my body and would put me down every chance they got.