I (30M) have been in a relationship with my partner (28F) for about three years. She’s amazing and I love her deeply, but we’ve recently been having arguments about our bedtime routine.

For me, falling asleep with back scratches is incredibly relaxing and makes me feel loved. I’ve always expressed how much it means to me in our relationship, and I put in a lot of effort to make her feel cherished through romantic gestures, spontaneous dates, and cooking for her.

Lately, though, she’s been reluctant to give me back scratches. I’ve tried to suggest solutions, like going to bed earlier or even watching our shows in bed together, but she often responds with excuses like being too tired or wanting to watch TV instead. I totally understand if she’s exhausted sometimes or if life gets busy, but the complete stop has made me feel really sad and unappreciated. I have asked her if there is anything more she would want me to do as a compromise and she said no.

I’m at a point where I’m considering breaking up because of this, even though I love her. AITA for suggesting ending things over not getting back scratches?