This is a long post, super long & I’m not too much into Reddit form. Also names are changed because I have a 1 in a million name that starts with a letter that not many people have.

I grew up in a small town roughly 2,300 people. I didn’t have many friends and I wasn’t popular what so ever (looking at pictures now I realize I was really pretty and still unsure why people didn’t like me, maybe my name is that unique lol or that I was poor) but I became friends with a girl named Taylor, I wouldn’t say her parents had the most money but they definitely worked hard for what they had and it was all nice, more than most that I knew. Fast forward to high school, she had an older brother and they would have parties, I did have 2 other friends and we weren’t kind of like the 3 lame girls in our grade. Anywho they get invited to Taylor’s barn party and I wasn’t invited. While the popular girls and my two other friends were. It was whatever. We had majority of classes together so we still talked but to my senior year I started dating her older brother for 2.5 months, he has 2 kids at the time and was an alcoholic who had a bad pill problem. I ended up cutting it off which I should have left it as a one night stand.

That was in 2013, now to the end of 2015 we meet again at the bowling alley my ex and I would goto all the time, we hit it off and started hanging out regularly. My bf traveled at the time so I spent a lot of time with her and her best friend who we will call Hailey. We all became super close pretty quick. She was there for me when my traveling bf would cheat on me, and most importantly when my mom passed away in 2017.

February of 2018 Taylor, Hailey and I decided to trip on shrooms. I wanted us all to connect on a different level and when my mom passed away I tripped alone and it was amazing and helped me grieve. I understood why my mom had to pass. Anyways mid trip of all of us tripping together T & H start asking me questions like “why are you still awake, why did you take shrooms, why are you sitting like that?” So each time they asked me a question I would literally ask them the same question. They thought it was bizarre and I shouldn’t have been asking them. Long story short we have a falling out that lasted 2 years!

We connect again in 2020 while I’m working in a factory and she has a job as a nurse. Just like last time we hit it off and became super close again. I had my own house about 25 from her so when we would hang out on weekends or days off and go for brunch, smoke some marijuana and just chill, this and that.

I got a new job at a different factory and I had a 2nd job, between the 2 I was making around 5k a month working 50hrs at the factory 5 days a week and 1 day a week cleaning for 6-8 hours. We still hung out the same and there were no problems.

She did have a boyfriend that mooched off of her and he was okay with working a job for $9 an hour. I tried to talk to her about him doing something different to help because she payed for everything. Food, housing, vacations, his car, everything!

She ends up cheating on him with a couple different guys, she leaves him but she gets pregnant by one of the guys! She gets an abortion because she wanted to be the guy she was with but she knew it wasn’t his. I don’t think they ever got back together because she realized he was a leach but she kept getting played by multiple guys and I was there for her through it ALL!

I was 26 at the time and I decided that I was going to quit drinking (I drank every night and it was a heavy amount) so we didn’t hang out as much because I didn’t want to drink anymore so if we were going to stay inside and smoke I’d be down but I didn’t want to go out with her nurse friends and by this time Taylor and Hailey had fallen out because of Hailey’s boyfriend.

I had been talking to a guy on and off for around 2.5 years and I would send her snapchats when we were together. One day I send her a video of me climbing up a vine like a rope and him cheering me on. I thought I loved this okay. The next day I get screenshots of her nurse friend adding the guy I liked on Facebook then her messaging him trying to go out and talking about sexual stuff. I told her I didn’t ask her to do any of it, she crossed a line and I said so you and your nurse friends are hanging around the nurses table just making fun of me? We remained in contact and kept our 900day streak going but I would only send a dark picture and really wouldn’t communicate much.

I started thinking about life hard and wanted to work in an office instead of working on the floor at some factory. I wanted to make really good money so I decided I was going to start selling cars (2022)

I start working for a dealership and right off the bat my first check was 8k then it was 12k then it was 15k and it stayed consistently between 15k-18k with a 20k in there. I worked long hours at the dealership and I drove an hour 1 way each day until I moved closer to work. Taylor and I kept in contact and I was still there for her with the multiple guys that were playing her. In the car business the managers will sometimes give you deals as in here’s a phone number, they want a car, get them in here and sell it. Mind you I worked my ass off and didn’t have money given to me at the dealership. My general manager ended up taking me to Vegas because I was doing well and honestly he wanted to be with me. She was kind of like damn girl get it, I wish I had a sugar daddy the whole nine yards. I did tell her that he doesn’t give me things or money I buy everything myself with the money that I earn. Granite I did buy a couple LV purses, a new car, lived in a nice place but I tried to share with her by getting her gifts, perfumes etc.

She invited me to her birthday that was at an extremely nice and expensive place with around 10 of her work friends, everyone’s getting lots of drinks, the most expensive food, & desert. One of her friends says in front of everyone “it sure would be nice to have a sugar daddy, I see your diamond earrings and matching necklace” which they weren’t real but they did look nice. I told her I don’t have one but if she wanted to make as much as me I could get her a job. Then they bring out the bill and everyone agrees that I pay for the bill because I make more than all of them. I said absolutely not, I’ll pay for Taylor’s because it’s her birthday. Then they wanted to goto this really nice bar that was covered in marble and I declined the offer and went home.

Fast forward to my birthday, Taylor and her friend that made the comment gave me a big bouquet of flowers, payed for top golf (which I appreciate a lot because I wouldn’t have done anything for my birthday) i’m just not the type of person to make plans for myself like that.

The beginning of my birthday month I get a call from someone and somehow we start talking, he was so genuine, grew up extremely poor like myself and he’s made something of himself now and used to sell cars. I was IN LOVE without meeting him in person. We talked everyday for over 2 months before he flew out to meet me. Days leading up to him arriving, she’s short with me and doesn’t ask or say anything about us meeting. Still when I sent her a video that I was on my way to pick him up from the airport. He only stayed for a couple days but it was love at first sight! The day he left Taylor messages me like usual but doesn’t ask how did it go, what kind of guy is he or anything! So I brush it off but in the back of my head I’m thinking about how she betrayed me with the last guy I was talking to. A few days pass and I get on instagram to see that she is following him and has liked a few of his posts. I immediately call him and I tell him what she did in the past and to block her, so he does. I didn’t unfollow her or unfriend her on any social media. I just quit responding. All together, no messages going out. Around the 4th day I get a long message basically saying that “if it weren’t for social media you would just be a little worker be like the rest of us. Eat some humble pie and sit the f down” “if I had a sugar daddy I would be able to afford all the things you have but I don’t I have to work for my things” “if I could just spread my legs and get what I want, I would” literally terrible things that weren’t true. I still didn’t message back to any of her messages. I kept my peace and it felt so good! She continued to message me nasty stuff for around 2 weeks before she stopped. I did message her friend that tried to “get with” the guy I used to like and thanked her. That’s when Taylor messaged me saying I was insecure and go be with my “influencer boyfriend” still didn’t reply.

One month later I went to visit my “influencer boyfriend” for a week, flew home for a few days then packed my suv with everything that could fit and drove 19 hours to my now home state. We click so well, he’s extremely loyal, share interests, have similar upbringings, within a year together we purchased our first home together and have 3 dogs. We just hit our 2nd anniversary and I couldn’t be more happy with him, all of our friends which is a lot through the company and our life we’re building together.

Side note: she did message me a little over a year ago going off again but I didn’t reply.

AITA for not telling her why I didn’t want to be friends with her anymore, and not wanting to argue about anything with her or am was I okay to keep my peace and not say a single word?