( F34) work at a retail store, one of my coworkers (M55) got into trouble for touching the arm of one of the female employees and was sent to HR. The guy seemed pretty chill, so most of us thought it was a bad situation for both of our coworkers because she has a right to her physical boundaries, but he also didn't seem malicious. I'll call him Stanley.

Our lounge is kind of an open space ( no door) inside the establishment. This causes clients to constantly approach us during lunch break. So me and my coworkers we prefer to eat in the parking lot ( inside a car). Sometimes I eat alone, sometimes we eat together.

Last Friday, we were having lunch inside another work friend's car. It was 4 of us, me, the car owner, a cashier and Stanley. We parked next to the fence, windows down to avoid food odors. I saw an elbow/forearm coming in from my window and across my seat. I was confused and then saw this guy reaching out to shake Stanley's hand. He seemed cool and even friendly at first . He confirmed if Stanley was Stanley and they shook hands. It was a bit weird but he could have been a merchandiser, or a friend of a friend or whatever.

Then guy asked him if he knew Danie, and Stanley said yes. The guy said that's his wife. Stanley's face changed immediately. The guy first asked him to stop texting his wife. That she's a good person and friendly but it is guys “like him” who take it the wrong way. Stanley clarified that they exchanged numbers because the wife worked for a supplier and Stanley works the warehouse ( she's now just a client who comes to buy stuff because she changed jobs). The guy said “ exactly, and you have no business reaching out at 6AM and at night before going to sleep, calling her dreamy or being insistent and demanding that she replies”. He also asked Stanley to stop, because the wife was uncomfortable and she didn't deserve that. And that she shouldn't have to stop shopping at the store because of Stanley.

t was awkward, but we finished lunch. We stepped out of the car and the guy came out of his own car and handed Stanley a bag with 3 knick knack gifts he had supposedly put on the wife's car. Nothing else, no more talking. Stanley was put on probationary period that same day. Nobody knows the actual reason but I'm sure the guy filed a complaint.

He has been reaching out on the work chat and in private after I told him that I will no longer be available to carpool with him. He sent me a voice message asking why but I don't want to talk to him. He says he feels specially betrayed because I was a good friend who gave him the benefit of the doubt during the other accusation. This is very uncomfortable because I have to see him tomorrow. I want to block him, but I don't know if this will make our working environment worse. AITA?