I (23F) and my boyfriend (26M) have been dating for 3 years now. I see our relationship as the healthiest relationship I've ever been in every way. I've always felt a bot of attraction for girls as well and 2 years back, i met a girl. We became really close friends in a really short time and bonded instantly. it was like she is my soulmate, my support system and all i could ask in a friend. She is attractive tho, ngl, and i joked with my bf a couple of times that I'll leave u for her lol.. he used to make the same old guy jokes of how he'd like to see some girl-on-girl action (very silly light hearted jokes, nothing red flag). she knew I had a bf.. however, over time i kept thinking about it and one night, me and my friend were hanging out and just in the moment, we started making out...i tried to back out but she said i needed to know if im attracted to girls or not and this could be a good trial for me as we are friends and will still remain friends even if I didn't like it...i guess she felt some chemistry too... after the kiss, i realised this wasnt something i really liked, and not into it at all and told her and that was the end of that... we were still bestest friends afterwards.

The next day it was weighing on me so i told my bf what I did. he pretended to be very understanding and let it go. Now recently, rhis came up in an argument and he said that he cannot believe i did that and even if indod it qas very selfish of me to have told him, if there are no real feelings I shouldn't have said anything to him, how i embarrassed him because he couldn't talk this out with anyone else, and basically incheated at him and he still feels hurt thinking about it and doesn't really like me being with her.. i knew it was wrong and i agree with all he said, and so i apologized and we managed to work through it. he says he's fine now and forgotten all that and wont hold it against me.

Now the problem is, it has beeen soo many months since i hung out with my friend.. i kinda miss her and she has tried reaching out to me but i haven't responded.. so i need advice, AITA for cutting her out? should i let her know the real reason? AITA to my bf if i continue friendship? apart from that single incident there hasnt been anything else between us except total friendship.