Am I the asshole for cutting a friendship off after they gaslit me into thinking I stopped caring and started hating them because I don’t always play video games with them? I want to start this by saying that I never purposely meant for them to think I don’t care about them or hate them, it’s not the case but they tend to make it difficult… pretty often. I personally think they are a little immature for being so dramatic and petty over VIDEO GAMES of all things. I am not sure if I did something wrong or if I’m maybe not the asshole. I have these two “friends” who I can get along with occasionally. One of them was my best friend for like 8-9 years while the other one is a dumbass bum who sits in his parents basement and plays video games all day and doesn’t get a job. I’ll defer to the bum as Eddy and my ex ish best friend as Ed. Eddy is a pain in my ass. I’ve gotten into arguments with them a lot recently because I, unlike them, don’t play video games very often and have no big motivation to do so. I usually only play if I’m in the mood or if something has caught my attention, which only usually lasts a few weeks at most. This past weekend, I got into an argument with them because an update came out for a game (Black Ops 6) last week and I didn’t install it the day it came out, because I’ve been working 5am-1:30pm and when I get home I am exhausted from the shift as I’m not a morning person and I usually am not up late or have motivation to play anything. I went to install it Friday to play with them, I joined their call to play and then remembered the game had an update that would only take like 45 minutes to an hour to install. I left the call after a couple minutes to install the update and get dinner. Probably like 30 minutes into this hour long wait, before the update was even done, I get a text from Eddy in our group chat saying that if I really cared about him and Ed, I would’ve installed it when the update came out and that I would’ve installed it earlier if it was for me to play with some other friends (That I have a much healthier and less stressful friendship with. They’re also a new group for me). Ed and eddy usually tend to get jealous when I decide to play with other friends instead of drop what I’m doing and leave the group I’m playing and laughing with just to go and play with them instead. To do something that can be done any other time. Ed and Eddy are now claiming I don’t care about them and seemingly hate them because I “Lie” to them all the time. But what they refer to as lying is when I say (while I’m at work and in the mood) I’m going to get on video games when I get home from work but then I get home from work and end up not getting on because I’m tired or not in the mood to play anything anymore. They know I’m not big on playing video games all the time because not much catches my interest and attention anymore. I tell them that I decide I’m not going to get on. They proceed to give me tons of crap and berate me with insults that they classify as jokes when I say I’m not getting on. Eddy particularly likes to call me childish and immature because I get “mad and defensive” when I don’t get on. They throw tantrums and get mad when I defend myself against said beratings and insults. As soon as they usually ask if I’m gonna get on, if I’m not in the mood to play or deal with their BS, I’ll tell them “no, I’m not getting on, end of story” because I know how they are and I know the responses and what will follow if I just say no. Eddy is a big headache to me because he’s one of those people that’s kinda self centered and gets mad at people when he doesn’t get what he wants from people. I recently asked them if they wanted to try a game that’s only $10 on Steam, R.E.P.O, because it looked interesting. I was kind of taken aback when Eddy said the only way he’d play it is if I bought it for him, Ed didn’t tell me to buy it for him too but he also sided with Eddy. It’s not that I can’t afford it, I was irritated with the way he said it. Had he said he wanted to try it but cant afford it or that he didn’t want to play, I would’ve been fine with that but him telling me to buy it for him if I wanted to play with him kind of rubbed me the wrong way. They tend to give me crap too any time I go to do something else, like work on my project car, do work around my house, run errands or go out with other people, etc. and crab about me not getting on. They take every time I say I’ll probably get on as a promise to me getting on, which I’ve told them several times not to do. They complain and get mad when I don’t take time out of my day to plan a day to just play video games with them because I’m not sure if my family has plans. They would rather me tell my family that I don’t want to hang out and that I’d rather play video games instead, which isn’t what I want. I’d rather be off my butt doing something than playing video games. I’m sure I’ve made mistakes and have been rude in some cases but I don’t think I’m always in the wrong. Am I missing something here or am I just being gaslit into thinking I’m an asshole? That’s all I’ve got for this rant off the top of my head. I know I’ve got plenty more drama from Ed & Eddy but it’s A LOT to go on about. I’ll try to answer any questions and I’ll probably add updates. AITAH here?