So here’s the thing, I’ve known my best friend literally my whole life. We’ve been best friends since we could remember, like since kindergarten. We went to the same school all the way through K-12 and were classmates, and our moms are best friends, so we live in the same apartment complex and see each other every day. We do everything together, study, hang out, go to the gym, have sleepovers, and I hang out with him everyday. He’s the closest thing to family I have since I’m an only child and I’ve always been super comfortable around him.

For some context I came out as gay a while back, and to be honest, most of my friends distanced themselves after I came out. But my best friend despite being a straight guy didn’t care at all. He’s always been there and it’s been amazing because I’ve never had to worry about him not accepting me.

my boyfriend (been together for 5 months now) lives a little far away and he’s my first ever boyfriend, and like any teenager, I got super into the attention, I was a little extra about him in the beginning. I was so excited about being in a relationship that I kind of distanced myself from my best friend for a while, which looking back, was a really shitty thing to do, and I regret it very badly, It wasn’t like I was going to dump my best friend, but I guess I was just wrapped up in my first real relationship. So after a bit, I immediately apologized to my best friend and promised to always put our friendship first, we made up, and things went back to normal.

Then things got complicated. My boyfriend started getting weird about how close I was with my best friend. We would go to dates once a week, and other times we’d call a lot. whenever he’d ask me what I was doing and I’d say I was hanging out with my best friend, he’d get really cold and give me the silent treatment. It was honestly so weird, He even started making strange comments like, “Maybe you should just go fuck him instead” whenever I would mention my best friend, He kept bringing up how I was too touchy with my best friend, saying things like it’s not normal to give each other piggyback rides or that we shouldn’t be studying together so much. He was really trying to distance us, it made me really uncomfy tbh.

So obviously I dumped that guy the moment he started putting down my best friend, like who does he think he is? But still I don’t know

am I the bad guy here? I honestly don’t understand where the line is between friends and relationships that shouldn’t be crossed especially if they’re both the same gender, I’m really unsure if I did the right thing. Please, someone tell me AITA? Sorry for the long rant I am just so mad