My partner works a stressful job, leaves just before 8, travels nearly an hour and then finishes at half five, travels home nearly an hour, He has gone to the pub Sunday, Monday, Wednesday, Thursday and today. We have three young children, our eldest is severely autistic and I have been struggling a lot with him. I feel out of my depth and my partner is aware of this but I am continuing to do my best. It's the Easter hols so I've been with the kids 24/7 for the last week. Am I wrong for expecting him to come home after work even though he works long days? I don't mind him popping to the pub occasionally but this week has seemed a bit much. Yesterday he was only there for a short time but the other days hasn't come home until around 8.30pm, he's accusing me of whinging and ruining his Friday eve? Am I wrong? Should I give him unlimited downtime without 'whinging' or is he taking the Mickey and being selfish?