I (30F) have been with my boyfriend (33M) for a little over a year. A few months ago, we started talking about moving in together. The original plan was to find a new place and rent it together, but then the idea came up (kind of impulsively, honestly) that he could just move into my apartment ,a two bedroom place that I own outright, not rent.

At first, it made sense. He wouldn’t pay rent since the place is already mine, but he could help with utilities, etc. I came to peace with the fact that he’d be bringing his cat and his big, loud dog (I already have three cats). That part alone was already a compromise on my end.

We later discussed how we’d split costs. He suggested he’d pay for the “fixed” expenses like electricity and Wi-Fi, and I’d cover groceries, cat food, and anything else that comes up. But here’s the thing: I feel like “groceries and everything else” would end up being the same if not more than what he would be paying .He eats a lot more than I do, and I’m already offering him a rent-free place to live. So would I be footing the larger part of the living expenses and sharing my space and routines with him, his pet, and his lifestyle?

I wouldn’t mind covering a few subscriptions or splitting some costs, but overall, this arrangement is starting to feel a bit unbalanced and honestly, I’m not super comfortable with it I feel like if you are my man and you are not paying rent you should cover all these other costs including EVERYTHING including FOOD

AITA for feeling like this setup isn’t fair and wanting to renegotiate or rethink it altogether?