Before I start: I didn’t say anything about this to my mother or my brother and I don’t intend to. That’s just how I feel about the situation and I was wondering what others might think.

We have many heirlooms in my family, most are very old and they’ve been in the family for a long time. There are several “secondary” heirlooms, but there are three rings that are considered the most important ones. We are three siblings (2 sisters and 1 brother), so it would be one ring per person.

My mother is the keeper of those heirlooms, but they’re from my father’s family. They’re divorced, she just holds onto them for safekeeping, as my father travels a lot and can be a bit disorganized. She never wears them though, they’re there for us and this has been clearly established.

This year my mother gave one ring to my brother. Now, I’m not upset about the fact that he got the ring, that was expected, I’m just upset about the fact that he’s the only one that did. On top of that she didn’t even give it to him, she gave it to him to use it as engagement ring, therefore the ring is now the property of his fiancée, a girl that she only met once.

My mother tells me that I will get it “one day”, but to me it doesn’t make much sense. I have been married for several years and will soon start a family, so it isn’t even a situation where she would just be waiting for me to also get married/engaged. My sister (33F) also didn’t get hers, which made it even more complicated to understand for me. If she had gotten it first then I could’ve understood, as it would’ve been in chronological order.

So, AITA for feeling upset about the fact that my mother gave the family heirloom to my brother and his fiancée, while my sister and I didn’t get ours?