I (28F) have just finished nursing school and am starting my first full-time job as a nurse. My partner (29F, low paying salary) and I are moving into my parents’ house while we get on our feet. My parents live overseas for half the year, so we’ll have the house to ourselves most of the time.

They’ve offered us a room for $400/week (together) and also asked if we’d be open to getting a housemate (which we assumed was to help cover costs). We agreed, and a friend of mine is moving into the other room. So the three of us will be living there full-time, when my parents are away.

Here’s where I’m feeling conflicted: a couple of years ago, my older sister and her partner (both consultants earning way more than I do now) lived in the same house at a similar age, and they were only asked to pay $200/week together. They shared the house with my parents half the time.

We’ve also been asked to organise and pay for a fortnightly cleaner. We’ve never had a cleaner before - we’re both pretty tidy and clean regularly. It’s just another extra cost we hadn’t budgeted for. Plus, bills (internet, electricity, water, etc.) aren’t included in the rent either.

I’m aware $400/week isn’t unreasonable for a couple, I agree we definitely should be paying rent and contributing to costs, and I really don’t want to come off as ungrateful, but it feels pretty unfair to be paying double what my sister and her partner paid - especially considering our lower income, and the added costs and compromises. The reason we have moved in is to help save for a house. My partner is frustrated and thinks I should push back more, but I’m torn.

So… AITA for feeling upset about this and wishing we’d been offered a similar deal? Should I push back, and if so how?