So, my bf (37m) and I (28f) have been together for about 7 months. Before that we were friends, and a few months before we got together he had been broken up with his ex, let’s call her Judy, for a few months. Something happened with her home life and mental health so she ended up staying with him rent free for a couple months. During this time I wasn’t able to go over to his house to hang out because of her "social anxiety". We started dating a few months later after she had moved out, but I do know they were having sex during that time she was staying with him.

Fast forward to now. Apparently he ran into her living on the streets, in a really severely bad place with her mental health. I understand how hard this must be for him. And I want to be sympathetic to this. However, when we were talking about it, he said things like "she was my best friend in the entire world, she has the most incredible smile ever, and the most amazing sense of fashion of anyone I have ever met”.

This pissed me off. My boyfriend has never been the type to give a ton of verbal affection, his love language is very much acts of service, which I have really felt and loved and appreciated. I just have come to accept and love the way he shows love. However, hearing him say those things about his ex makes me upset. I plan on letting him know this, and if anything progresses any further with Judy in terms of his attachment to the situation, I don’t know if I’ll be able to continue the relationship. Am I overreacting? I understand how hard it must be to see someone you care for in a horrifically dark place, but come on??