Went on a trip for the first time with my best friend of 15 years. Will never again. Simply put she didn’t want to do much; and was having her husband bitch her out for being “out too late” or whatever we were doing. He was watching us the entire way asking why we’re taking this route… etc. I was irritated by it, because he’s 40 years old and why would anyone need to be so controlling, but whatever not my problem or business. He ended up being mad she wasn’t coming home first thing in the morning on our last day (we had plans for activities) and so she pretty much demanded we leave. I had driven the entire day before hand (she slept the entire time) and I just wanted some time out of to car, so I got upset with her over it. I addressed her lack of interest in anything and pretty much told her we aren’t trip compatible, because by the end of it, I wasn’t even sure we are friend compatible anymore. Just slight context her sister has stopped talking to her because her husband did absolutely vile things to her, and my friend did nothing about it. I suspect our friendship will be yet another victim of her husbands controlling pathetic behaviors, but i no longer care.

However when I went to pick her up and drop her off. Her husband was extremely disrespectful to me. Looked at me with disgust, ignored me while I’m helping her put her bags in the car, after saying hello multiple times thinking maybe he didn’t hear me. Then gave me a death stare while hugging her goodbye. When she got in the car she was laughing saying yeah he’s giving you stink eye for talking you away from me and thought it was funny and cute? I no longer go to her house because he’s so awkward to me, and walks around in barley boxers every time I’m there (after she calls warning we are coming in the house and to put clothes on) but he has never been mean before. Same thing at drop off but even more cold.

I haven’t addressed that part yet because I don’t want her to think I’m lecturing her about her own husband I’ve just ignored her for days, but obviously will have to address here shortly. would I be the asshole for basically telling her off for allowing him to act like that towards me on a trip she willingly went on? We are 30 years old, he’s 40. It’s been planned for months. I have no behavior that would make him think we were out “cheating” or whatever he was so concerned about. I would never allow my husband to speak or act like that to my friends, or to act like that over a trip in general I wanted to go on.

Would I be the asshole for addressing it further or is that not my place.