to give a bit of a background, my mom has been a single mother all my life and i’m on my last year of university. my dad a few years ago stepped up from being deadbeat so he’s been able to give me a monthly allowance and pay for everything else i need so my mom doesn’t need to spend on me anymore. using that allowance, i’ve been able to save up a bit for my graduation trips later this year.

my mom has been unemployed since last year. she funds herself through her inheritance from the land my family sold a while ago. i guess that inheritance is long gone because recently, she’s been asking me for money. she knows i’m going on a graduation trip, she knows it’s not easy for me to just ask money from my dad that’s why i’ve been saving what i get, she knows i also have bills to pay. she keeps saying she’ll pay me by the end of april but it honestly feels just like an endless cycle. she’ll get a lot of money, blow it all up within months, have another mid-life crisis, then go deep into debt again.

today, she asked me again for money, when i’m nearing those graduation trips i worked so hard on to save for. when i got mad at her at how this happened she said to just give it to her as a birthday gift, and that she spent money on me before my dad came back. my aunts used to get mad at me whenever i spent a lot on concerts and clothes because what happens when my mom’s in debt again, like it’s my responsibility for her financial failures. i’m just so tired of having to be responsible for her.

AITA for getting mad at her and refusing to pay her one more time? am i allowed to refuse her calls and distance myself from her? especially when finals week is approaching