I was breaking up with my ex for various reasons. He began cutting his arm and he said it was due to his home life and everything going on all at once. He said he wouldn’t kill himself. But I take this stuff seriously. His mother is a crackhead and is abusive and racist towards him. Here, he refers to her as Kasey. He refers to his loving step-mom as Tina. I found this out and told Tina. The break up was very bad and he had been guilt tripping me (but not with self harm), just in general, which is why I broke it off. I told my close friends. I have a group of about 7 girls who I’m very, very close with. I also reached out to my ex who I’m on diplomatic terms with and asked how he dealt with the guilt of me begging him to stay? Since, my current ex is also doing that. I feel horrible because I mentioned the self-harm aspect, but I never said names. My friends told the school counselor. They called his mom, Kasey. He is mad at me. I didn’t intend for them to call Kasey, which is why I contacted Tina but he doesn’t know that. I felt really overwhelmed and now I feel super guilty for telling others. He was saying my friends would tell their bfs and that the whole school would know. He’s afraid people heard THROUGH the doors of the counselors office. I apologized. Here’s what was said. The main point of this post is the thing he’s mad at me for saying in these texts:

Me: I’m sorry I brought it up to anyone. At the time I was overwhelmed and didn’t think about any particular consequences. That’s still my fault. I promise to keep things between us private. I’m sorry.

Him: I’m still mad.

Me: I know

Him: I might get my accutane taken and Tina is mad at me.

Me: I’m sorry. I promise Tina’s not mad. I think she’s just worried.

Him: She was mad. And she kept asking why I would do it. And she was blaming me.

Me: I’m sorry

Him: And Kasey wants to put me in a psych ward

Me: Kasey needs to go in one (I was gonna send a caring and realistic text after this but he said shut up so)

Him: Shut Up

Me: I don’t think anyone will listen to her on that. Sorry?

Him: You don’t understand this has real consequences

Me: I do?

Him: you wouldn’t be joking

Me: Cutting yourself and having the mindset you do has real consequences

Him: It was one day

Me: I’m sorry

Him: Why does everyone keep freaking out? it was one day. My life is over because of one day

Me: I don’t think anyone will listen to her because of how she is. Is what I’m trying to say. But, I understand you’re afraid and she still has some power. I didn’t mean for this to cause you so much drama. your life is not over. I just wanted you to get help. I’m sorry I never meant for Kasey to know. I realize that saying that about Kasey might’ve felt like I wasn’t taking things seriously I was just mad she was hurting you, but I should’ve stayed focused on you. I’m sorry for that.

End. Help. I feel like I corrected my comment on Kasey too late. I’m scared and I feel like a horrible person. I feel like my efforts to correct anything don’t matter. I feel terrible for bringing it up to others + saying that. AITAH?

Edit: he’s saying Kasey will send him to a psych ward and tell his therapist. Meaning his life is essentially over for him. He’s saying I told the school.