We’re crate training our new puppy, and she usually only needs one potty break at night. She goes in her crate around 11pm, then wakes up around 2–3am to pee, and she can usually hold it until 6–7am.

Last night, my husband took her out at 2am. Then at 3am, he hears her whine and wakes me up to take her out. I asked why he didn’t just do it again since he was already awake, and he said, “I just took her at 2.”

What really upset me is that I had just told him the day before how completely exhausted I am and that I really needed to sleep through the night. I’ve been getting only 3–5 hours of sleep lately, I work farther away than he does, and I drive 45 minutes each way. He works from home three days a week and even napped yesterday with our older dog during his work hours.

On top of that, we have a day trip today — a 3-hour drive each way — and he still expects me to drive the whole time. Plus I have a morning appointment today and I’m running on 3.5 hours of sleep. I just feel completely burnt out and like he’s not really hearing me when I say I need rest.

He thinks I’m overreacting, but I don’t think I’m being unreasonable for being upset. AITA?