I (24M) ghost my dad (58M) because I guess I just don’t really like him. He and my mother divorced (he cheated) very early in my life to where I can’t remember him living at home, and he chose to move 5+ hours away to pursue a career in being a paramedic. For the next 3/4 years he’d visit me and my brother probably once MAYBE twice a year.

Then he moved back to my area, and I liked it when I was younger. But it quickly turned into me dreading going for visits/sleepovers because I was bored the whole time, there was nothing to do there and he’d just have sky sports news on the tv the whole time (I like sports but they’d repeat the same stories over and over all day like it was on a loop).

Now I’m a full adult and everything I do is met with some “help” which is just unwanted advice about what I should’ve done. I just end up not telling him half of the things going on until they’re complete so there’s no “why don’t you do this” in the conversation.

I can’t explain why I don’t like him other than the way he treated my mother, could be because there’s never been a connection made between us, could be because I realised he’s a shitty dad. But no matter how hard I try, I always end up annoyed after I speak with him, so I just end up delaying it as much as possible.

Side note - even as I’m reading it back I don’t even know if he is this mean person I portray him as in my head. His friends and even most of my friends like him on a surface level, but I can’t help the way I feel. I’ve had this conflict in my mind for years about whether I’m just a shitty son, or if I’m trying to force a narrative that isn’t there, which is probably why I never cut him off.

So… AITA?