This is my first time in reddit. I have just listened to a few stories from reddit on other apps. Anyway, here it goes.... Me (35yrs) and my husband (38yrs) have been married for 5 years. We dated for 7 years and we actually waited till after marriage to have s£x. The beginning started like any other relationship..he was a natural romantic and i was just a normal girl who loved being pampered and showered with so much attention. As years went by our relationship remained loving with the exception of a few fights along the way. However, before we got married I got major cold feet. I loved him but I was doubting my abilities to be a good wife for him and i thought that I would be embarassing my family of I went ahead and broke off the engagement so I just brushed it off aside and married him. The wedding was lovely with all our friends and family. We had the best time and even after we moved in together we had fun. It was a new beginning. Although I wanted to go for a honeymoon my husband was a practical person and persuaded me to ditch the idea and save up instead so we can invest in better things for our future. We already had the conversation way before we got married so I didn't want to go there again and get upset all over so I just agreed. Every little thing from that moment on was what he wanted, he got. Decisions for our family, he controlled what was spent around the house (he earned more than me and paid for almost 80% at home, so I didn't complain). What affected me the most though was when I really wanted to start trying for a baby right about when all the COVID craze started to dwindle. He was not ready although we talked about it. He stated that it was not safe yet and we should wait. So waited I did. There was some issue however when we finally agreed to try because I had to hypothyroidism. It took us almost a year to get pregnant and when we did it was the most beautiful feeling ever! That didn't stay for long though because throughout my pregnancy when ever I asked for a massage or a back rub..he was constantly complaining so stopped asking. I couldn't sleep much at the beginning of it and his snoring at night didn't help much so he opted to sleep on the couch. I thought it would be temporary but he didn't want to come back to our bed even upto the day before I gave birth to our baby. I was lonely..when I say lonely i meant every word of it. He started gaming alot til early morning and when he comes back from work he is always on his phone either gaming or on Instagram. I always have to force him to take me out on dates or spend time together. It was one for the worst times in my life and when people ask me if I'm planning to get another child my heart ached just thinking about those times. He started distancing himself so much from me that I started to question if I was the reason for all of it and i started to change a lot. I was so stupid! The when our daughter was born, he was there for me no doubt. He brought me breakfast in bed, took care of our daughter and let me sleep in the mornings after he woke up knowing that I couldn't sleep much throughout the night with feeding the baby every 2 hours etc. I didn't want home to lose sleep so we slept separately, me and the baby and he slept alone as usual. That was another wrong decision i suppose because he could have experienced that part with me but anyway what's done is done. He was good to us after the birth and still is. He does so much for us even when we don't ask for it. It's just that sometimes he snaps at me in ways that makes me feel so less of a person and sometimes he calls me names that I wouldn't want to repeat. He never apologises for it instead he does things for me around the house and i just sweep it unde the ruh like it's a normal thing because honestly I hated confrontations and fights! Anyway, he got a big job offer a few months ago but his work was 2 hours away. He was hesitant to take the job since our baby was so small and he would miss us a lot but I persuaded him that an opportunity like this probably wouldn't come around any time soon so he should take it and it wouldn't be a problem since we have a stay at home nanny as well.. He started his new job in January ( it's april now) and we have adjusted just fine. He comes home on Fridays and leaves again on Mondays. However, he has started gaming a lot again since he moved there because I guess he doesn't have much to do there since it's not really a city and there is not much of anything really so and i wouldn't blame him. His gaming however has really reached a point where I can't take it anymore. He games when he's there and he games when he's home. He doesn't have time for us anymore. He spends time with our daughter but even when he's with her he's always on his phone. Either gaming or chatting with his friends. He never makes time for me anymore and when I try to talk to him about it he snaps at me and gets all defensive. In the end he makes me feel like I did something wrong. Recently he dropped a bomb on me bu telling me that he has a crush on one of the characters in the game! Like, is that even possible? I don't play those type of games so I don't know. When he told me that I asked him if the character was controlled by somebody else or was it designed by the creator of the game? He didn't reply. I was shocked in all honesty because for me it was cheating. I know i sound dumb saying that given that it's a character in a game but him spending so much of his time because he likes that character instead of his own family is still cheating...right? After that conversation I started to ignore him. I couldn't look at him the same not talk to him like how I used to. Being cheated on was something I had to heal from a long time ago and he knew that that would be the last straw for me. I have repeatedly told him in the past that if I found out about him and another woman I will not give him any benefit of a doubt nor the time of day and i would just simply move on because being cheated on is the worst feeling that anyone would have to feel or go through and i went through that and I had promised myself that I wouldn't allow myself to be treated that way again. So please tell me...am I overreacting to this confession of his or is it justified?