📝 AITA for giving my partner the silent treatment for not accepting my apology

By Own-Sprinkles1761 • Score: 0 • April 20, 2025 4:48 PM


I (20F) am super upset at my husband (25m) for not accepting my apology for something I had did that really upset him. For more context, I went live on social media the other day and participated in a 'kill, marry smash' game. We all had established that this game was purely hypothetical and that no feelings would be held towards this whatsoever. They all also knew that I am married, and that my husband is in the room with me as well. When he heard me go on with him, he visibly became upset, which I totally understand. At no point during this conversation was I dismissive of his emotions, and I had apologized to him, making a point to say that I hadn't used my brain at all, that is was extremely stupid to do so and I shouldn't have done it and opted out of it. However, when I had asked him why exactly had it upset him even know it wasn't intended in any real way, he's response was "I'm not enough for you". Here's some context on why he says that, he's been unemployed since the beginning of this year, I have also been unemployed since finding a job has been really hard, neither my husband nor my family wants me to work until we can get my property fully renovated and can be rented out for income. So during this entire time he's been doing odd jobs for a tiny bit of money so that we can have some money for basic necessities, as well as been getting some help form his family as well. however this money isn't enough for other things, such as going out on dates, or buying me things that I want(make up, clothes, accessories, etc), things that I don't need. At no point in time have I ever asked or bothered him about any of these. I know where we stand financially, so I won't go and ask for things I know we don't need, and even tho there is hardly ever money, he still makes sure that every now and again, he'll get me some snacks that I wanted, or whatever else he thinks or knows I want, without me asking for it. Now, with that being said, he thinks that he's not enough for me, and that he's boring. Another thing that has brought about these thoughts were of a time he checked my phone and saw that I had deleted a message, however I had explained to him that the only reason why I deleted that message was because I sent it to that person by accident. He also mentioned that I had apparently deleted more messages to another guy, however I never did anything like that. So essentially he thinks that I'm going behind his back and having conversations with other guys that I don't want him to see. I made it very clear to him that if he wasn't enough, if I didn't want to be with him, then I wouldn't have stayed with him, even after all of the bad stuff he did that hurt me emotionally. I told him this, as well as telling him that whatever he was talking about, I have no collection of, simply because it didn't happen, however he is very certain of what he saw, and I have no idea on how to prove to him that I didn't do what he accused me of, and to show him that I wouldn't do that to him. And I think at this point I'm really just tired emotionally. However I know at this point that my apology wasn't accepted, and I wasn't heard. Nothing I had said to him, was heard. So at this point I'm quite pissed off, only because whenever he does something wrong and he apologizes, I just need to forgive and forget, and move on, otherwise I'm holding onto the past and not letting go because he already apologized. So AITA for being upset that my apology wasn't accepted?

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