So, me and my ex were making out, once we stopped she had turned the other way (I guess she tried to sleep) and I had unbuttoned her jeans and unzipped, unhooked her bra but then nothing sexual happened (all the clothes were still on, every layer). We just then slept for sometime after a few moments when our sleep broke we starting kissing and hugging again. I said I opened them so that she could relax and sleep. She only said that if you don't want to do anything then don't unhook the bra, I don't need it open for relaxation. After that we talked, hugged and kissed for sometime after which she rolled over and we were going to hump. I then unbuttoned one of her shirt buttons, I realized what I was doing and tried to put the button back. But then she freaked out of what was happening, then she went away and said what I was doing and told me to get away as well and then I came back. (we have broken up now)

In the past gone to 2nd base (going to 2nd base was normal, seen her top half naked once before and made out) and used my hands/thigh waist below (with clothes on). While doing the deed she would feel nice about it but after the deed was done she wouldn't be feeling so nice about it.

Now, later on she told me that she was asleep or in the state of sleep when I unbuttoned her jeans. I didn't know she was in the state of sleep as she had turned the other way. But she is telling me that I tried to take advantage of her in her sleep (which I wouldn't, I have slept next to her before and never done anything like that) and do something bad with her. She think I would has assaulted or harassed her. She has blocked me on all fronts. Does this make an assaulter or harasser? I wouldn't want to do anything like that to her, I understand that I didn't communicate, it is the key and that I definitely made a mistake.