So I (24F) am in a huge mess with my bestie and could use some outside perspective. my best friend (23F) just got out of a seriously toxic relationship with a guy she met on a dating app. This dude was emotionally abusive, isolated her from friends, the whole deal. It took us nearly a year to help her leave him.

A month after the breakup, she decided to get back on the same dating app. I was freaking out because her judgment with men is honestly terrible, and she always goes for the same red-flag types.

Here's where I might be TA. Since I work in IT, I found a way to access her dating app account and created a filter that automatically rejected guys with certain keywords in their profiles (things like "alpha male," "brutally honest," etc.) and guys who messaged certain aggressive patterns. I also set it to prioritize profiles with education, stable jobs, etc.

She's been on several dates in the past two months and keeps saying how the app "seems so much better now" and how she's "finally meeting decent guys." i was feeling pretty good about my secret intervention.

Well, yesterday she was showing me a guy's profile and I accidentally let slip something about the filtering system. She freaked out, calling me controlling and saying I violated her privacy and autonomy. She said I'm no better than her ex trying to control her life.

Our friend group is split some think I went too far, others say I was just protecting her from herself. I really thought I was helping her avoid another abusive situation, but now I'm questioning everything.

AITA for secretly filterin best friend's dating app matches?