AITA for telling my friend I’m not blaming my partner for my addiction, and that she’s unfairly throwing it in my face?

So for context, I (35f)have been open about my past addiction. I’ve worked hard to take accountability for it and move forward. I’ve shared parts of my journey with my friend (34f) and I thought we had a mutual understanding. Recently, though, things blew up. She believes she know all about my addiction because of parts I shared.

She accused me of blaming my partner for my addiction, which I’ve never done. What I said — and what I meant — was that because I had access to money during my addiction, I was able to use more heavily than I may have otherwise. But every choice I made, I made on my own. My partner never encouraged it, enabled it, or even knew the extent of it at times.

My friend twisted this and said I was blaming my partner and holding things against him — even going so far as to say “no wonder you view him the way you do.” She also threw in accusations that I talk badly about her and her relationship with her partner , behind her back. I haven’t — and she’s never addressed this with me until now, but only when she’s upset and will not acknowledge it after she throws I. It my fave. When I question it she ignores it.

What really hurt is that I feel she brought up my addiction like a weapon. She compared it to her own relationship — saying she lived in a nice hotel with her partner while he made good money and she didn’t get addicted, so I shouldn’t have either. She said things like “take responsibility” and “that poor man,” as if I haven’t already felt like utter crap for parts of my addiction. It felt judgmental and dismissive of everything I’ve been through and how far I’ve come. She even went as far to say my husband should leave me if this is how I view him and that I should feel like sh*t for spending his hard earned money. Her husband says she is the reason why he does certain things he does so I feel maybe she’s taking it out on me in a sense.

I’ve told her over and over that I take full responsibility for my actions, and I’ve never blamed my partner. I’m frustrated that she keeps repeating the same point like I haven’t said this a hundred times. It also feels unfair that she gets to interpret my words however she wants and throw them back at me without ever asking how I really feel or where I’m coming from.

No matter how much I tried to explain that my addiction is a consequence of my own actions, she had what she believed stuck in her mind, and it wasn’t changing. Instead of really hearing me, she kept insisting on her version of the story.

So now I’m wondering… AITA for standing my ground and saying I don’t appreciate being blamed for things I haven’t done, and that I won’t let someone else decide how I should feel about my addiction and recovery?