I 26 m met a guy 29 m over the weekend. We‘be been chatting for about 3 weeks every day. After i asked him out we agreed to meet on saturday. We met and had a (imo) a wonderful time. We went to get coffee, for a walk and it ended in me going to his place. We talked a lot and the vibes were matching. In the end we ended up doing handsy stuff (no penetration yet because i refused to do that at the first date) I already made hints about a second date and he seemed to agree at the time. Now we also talked on our date how we wanna proceed and he told me „i don‘t get feelings early and need to develope them more with time and date“ to which i agreed and told him we should „go with the flow“.

Now 2 days later after still chatting I wanted to clarify some stuff. I asked him when he‘s available the next time to which he told me he‘s buisy for the next week and can‘t meet. Which i do understand and i told him „i‘m happy to meet when you have the time“. I told him „just to clarify i‘m not going to see another person when i‘m activley pursuing you and not chatting/dating with somebody else because i see potential in us“

Now after i said that he got kinda weird. He told me he‘s under pressure of me saying this since he already told me „he doesn‘t develope feelings that fast“. To which i replied that i don‘t wanna pressure him and if he‘s not feeling it he can always tell me.

I told him that from my side i‘m exclusivly pursuing him bit kinda got no confirmation that it‘s the same for him.

Now i don‘t wanna be pushy but is that too much to ask of him?

I already suspect that he‘s activley dating/texting other people (just some observations i made) and i‘m maybe not his only priority.

He also neither confirmed nor denied he‘s doing that. I decided to retreat myself for the time being and see if he‘s activley still pursuing a second date with me. If he does not then the case is clear.

Now i wanted to ask for advice on here.

Is it too much to ask for this kind of exclusivity after a first date?