Today I (F32) was a little upset with my husband (M35) that he had requested me to make him breakfast. I am a teacher and presently unemployed. My husband works in the corporate field. We decided that I would wake up in the mornings and make breakfast for him to take to work. As we went to sleep late last night and I had a morning tutoring session at 10am, I asked him if he could buy his food instead. He told me that he would prefer that I make him something. So I woke up early this morning as I had to get dressed, make tea and breakfast by 9am (that's when he leaves for work), feed the cat, have my own tea and be ready to start my session by 10am. It was a doable timeline. So when I was rushing in the morning, he comes in and realises that I am in a sour mood. Confronts me and makes me state why I was feeling moody. I tried to play it off that I was sleepy, but he knows me better. I then admitted that I was upset that he wasn't as considerate about my situation, otherwise he could have let me sleep in a little more to feel more rested for the session. We started arguing. He stated that making breakfast was the least I could do for him while unemployed. I did have reactive blowups but I had to admit to him that I was being selfish by having a sour attitude when making breakfast as time was ticking and it was already 9.40am. I agreed when he told me that I was the toxic one, finding all sorts of reasons to fight with him even tho he supports us and how selfish I was for thinking only of myself. At 9.55am, I had still not fed the cat and was thinking of postponing my class till 10.30 to be able to do it. But then he started lecturing me on how unprofessional that is and that I shouldn't just randomly tell them a later time. He then volunteered to feed the cat, which I appreciate, but I did not appreciate the lecture. He left telling me that I need to stop being the toxic one in our relationship. So Reddit, am I the toxic and problematic one? Was I the AH for having an attitude when making breakfast?I know I am far from perfect, but am I seriously the problem?