My post got deleted from AITA, so I'm reposting here.

Using a throwaway because some of my friends have Reddit.

For context: I (21F) go to university about 20 hours from my hometown. My boyfriend (21M) lives 5 hours away from my hometown, so we are long-distance no matter where we are.

Basically, this past holiday season, I went home for a month for winter break. My boyfriend and I had made plans for him to come visit me the week before Christmas since we hadn't seen each other in 2 months. My friend, "Stacy" (22F), and I hung out a lot while I was home, and I had told her how excited I was to see my boyfriend on multiple occasions.

The day that my boyfriend came to my city, Stacy texted me asking to hang out. I told her I couldn't, because my boyfriend was there. She said okay, and we moved on. A few hours later, a mutual friend, "Alice" (21F), texted a groupchat with Stacy and me, asking if we wanted to go out for dinner. I replied to the text and declined, explaining that my boyfriend was with me. Alice said he was free to join us if he wanted to, but I said no because I didn't want to impose, plus I just wanted some 1-on-1 time with him.

Stacy called me immediately after I sent that text and asked me why I wasn't going to dinner with them. I restated all my reasons, and I told her that I would love to go the next weekend if they wanted to. She got upset with me, saying that I was choosing my boyfriend over my friends.

Now, this is the part where I may be the AH: I told her that it wasn't fair of her to say that when she consistently bails on all of us at the last minute to go on various dates. I also said that I would rather spend time with my boyfriend, who I haven't seen in 2 months, than go out with them and get drunk for the 4th night in a row.

She hung up on me after I said that, and that was that. After my boyfriend left a few days later, I texted our groupchat and asked them if they wanted to get dinner that weekend since I was free. Nobody responded to me. I sent another (unrelated) text a few hours later, and they responded to that one. Then, I resent my question about the dinner plans because I figured they had just been busy earlier and hadn't seen it. Again, nobody responded. I realized that they may have been upset with me, so I texted Alice privately asking if everything was okay. She said that she was fine, but Stacy had been complaining in a separate groupchat, calling me an AH and saying that I didn't care about my friends.

I hadn't spoken to Stacy since then, but this past weekend, I went home to visit my family, and I figured I would reach out. I invited her out to grab coffee and talk, but she didn't respond.

So, was I the AH?