I’m (24F) dating a guy (25M), and we usually go to his family’s Sunday night dinners. It’s always the same group: his grandparents, parents, brother, and his brother’s girlfriend (my SIL). I’ve known SIL for a while, but we only recently started getting along.

At dinner tonight, she asked me how work was going. For some context, at the last dinner I had confided in her—just the two of us—that things at work were getting pretty toxic. A consultant came in last minute and took over our team’s project, and it’s just been a mess. I also told her I was negotiating a deal with my employer to get some compensation while I looked for something new. I really thought we were having a private conversation.

So when she brought it up in front of everyone tonight, I was totally caught off guard. I’m not ready to talk about it publicly, so I just gave her a vague answer and turned the question back on her.

Later, when it was just the four of us on the couch (me, my boyfriend, SIL, and her boyfriend), she asked again if I had signed the contract. I didn’t want to get into it, so I just pretended not to hear her. My boyfriend tapped me on the shoulder, and she followed up with, “Oh, I’m sorry, is it not going well?”

I kind of froze. I just said, “Uuuhhh” for way too long and then didn’t answer at all. A little while after that, she left.

Later, my boyfriend told me I was a bitch for ignoring her and said I was being rude. I feel like that’s unfair. I told her those things in confidence, and it felt like she put me on the spot—twice.

So… AITA? Should I just apologize?

For some context: When we had the previous conversation, I didn’t specifically tell her «this is a secret», but I did tell her that the contract was pending and that I wasn’t really saying anything to others until things were set in stone. However, I did not expect her to ask me for updates/bring it up contract in front of others and was therefore surprised when she did.