My (23M) girlfriend (25F) recently found out she was pregnant with our child. We have been dating for three years and our relationship is pretty good. We both wanted children eventually, though we planned to have them later after we're a bit more established in our careers. The pregnancy came as a surprise since we're pretty safe with sex; we use condoms and she’s on birth control, so I guess we were just unlucky.

Initially we considered aborting or placing the baby for adoption, but we decided to keep it. I graduated college last year and have a job that pays okay money with the possibility of future promotions and raises. My girlfriend works as an electrician and also makes good money so with both of our incomes we should be able to easily afford the baby.

A couple days after we decided we were keeping our child, my girlfriend told me that she wanted me to be a SAHD. She said that she believed that having a SAHD was better for the baby, and that she was raised by a SAHD and loved it. She said she wanted to give our child that same life. She said that she had been talking with her boss, who agreed to give her a raise. She said with that raise, plus working occasional overtime, she would be able to afford to pay our rent, bills, groceries and the costs for our baby. She even said she would marry me so I would have extra security.

I admit, I burst out laughing when she suggested this. It's just insane to me. Sure we might be able to afford me being a SAHD but it would require bugeting every penny she made. I also just graduated, does he really think I went to college for four years just to be a SAHD and spend my days doing her laundry and cooking her meals? Also what if she gets sick or dies? I'm the first person in my entire family to earn my degree. My parents were immigrants and both had elementary school level education. I'm very proud of my education and career - this is something she knows as I've told her multiple times, so I'm surprised she would even suggest this.

I could tell she was upset and hurt by my reaction but she accepted my decision without arguing. I was talking about this to one of my friends, and he told me that it was mean of me to laugh. That she was offering to care for me and our baby and I responded by mocking her. I didn't mean it to come that way, just that her suggestion to me anyway was so insane and stupid that I couldn't help it.

So Reddit, AITAH?