So my actual birthday was last weekend, however, some of my friends wished me happy birthday yesterday. I appreciated the gesture and thanked them without mentioning they'd got the date wrong because I'd barely mentioned my birthday and I'd got the day of the week wrong myself until the week of (put a pin in that for later).

When one of my friends pmed me to ask what I was up to, I told them it was the wrong day but that I still appreciated it. Well, turns out I'd told this friend the incorrect date. We'd had a chat the week before my birthday where they mentioned it and I responded by being vague, and when they suggested it was yesterday's date I responded "yeah", in what I'd thought was a "could be tone", thinking nothing would come of the chat. They're obviously pissed that I'd lied and I now feel really bad since I didn't think it would be a big deal.

A bit of context is that my friend was going home for the Easter hols, and I thought the day of the week they were flying was my actual birthday (spoiler alert: my birthday was actually the day before), so I didn't want to tell them knowing they'd probably be too busy to remember. I was also trying to organise some things during the first week of the hols, as you can get a train pass for a week of unlimited travel around the country, and while it would've been nice to go somewhere on my bday (which I ended up doing by myself), I didn't want there to be a big deal about one of the days being my bday since I would've been going irrespective of it and didn't want to make a big deal. Also, cause folk weren't very interested and I knew lots of people were heading home, I knew it was quite likely I'd be going alone anyways. I also just have a complicated relationship with my bday for a miltitude of reasons, so like it when people don't know about it, outwith legal contexts, of course!

So am I the arsehole for lying to my pals about when my bday was? I get why my mate's pissed at me for lying, but part of me feels justified since it is my birthday to share if I want to